Thinking of doing something crazy

[zipzap]

Are you stupid? You're closing a chapter in a book that was never open. She gave you the time of day and didn't like you, get the **** over it man. We've got serious cheaters, marriages going south, and you're worried about a girl you don't even know?

Grow up.

OK, this brings up a valid point you all seem to have - that I asked her out and she said no. I need to clarify. I didn't exactly come up to her (or call her up) and ask her out. What happened was: I was walking with her and I mentioned I hadn't eaten in a while, so she pointed out a restaurant that is open late. We went to check the place out, but I said I don't really want to eat now. I asked if she wants anything and she said no, so I said we could come back another time. That's when - to quote my OP - "she gave me mixed signals in her replies (she said yes, but she's busy and will let me know...but she never got back to me)". Then a week later, I brought it up again and got a similar reply.

Therefore, I feel as though I didn't step up to the plate. I shouldn't have asked her out in such a way - sort of piggybacking off her idea. I should've asked properly "would you like to go out with me?". I also shouldn't have quit after those 2 replies; I should've waited a week or 2 and then asked her properly. That's what I'm beating myself up over.

[zipzap]

We've got serious cheaters, marriages going south, and you're worried about a girl you don't even know?

Grow up.

I realize that, but I'm entitled to heartbreak too.

[zipzap]

LOL no man, it wasn't it definately wasn't.

Maybe not, maybe I'm fantasizing, but at the very least, there was SOMETHING there. She cared enough to give me a serious, prolonged look.

[DarkHelmet82]

zipzap.. are you just trying to troll?

[MerryH]

Maybe not, maybe I'm fantasizing, but at the very least, there was SOMETHING there. She cared enough to give me a serious, prolonged look.

You've really got to stop this. Do you realize how silly you sound right now? "Guys, she LOOKED at me. I KNOW she was in love with me."

[BeingAlpha]

OK, this brings up a valid point you all seem to have - that I asked her out and she said no. I need to clarify. I didn't exactly come up to her (or call her up) and ask her out. What happened was: I was walking with her and I mentioned I hadn't eaten in a while, so she pointed out a restaurant that is open late. We went to check the place out, but I said I don't really want to eat now. I asked if she wants anything and she said no, so I said we could come back another time. That's when - to quote my OP - "she gave me mixed signals in her replies (she said yes, but she's busy and will let me know...but she never got back to me)". Then a week later, I brought it up again and got a similar reply.

Therefore, I feel as though I didn't step up to the plate. I shouldn't have asked her out in such a way - sort of piggybacking off her idea. I should've asked properly "would you like to go out with me?". I also shouldn't have quit after those 2 replies; I should've waited a week or 2 and then asked her properly. That's what I'm beating myself up over.

Do you think she is of inferior intelligence that she didn't understand that you wanted to have a meal with her, likely make small talk and an awkward attempt at kissing her? let it go bro.

[zipzap]

In the end, I wish you well. What I say to you is not meant to be taken personal, it's to assist you to see
a perspective you may not have considered. If you don't like the advice given: the beauty of it is: you don't have to listen to it, adhere to it nor even agree with it!

But...I've been in your shoes...I've been arrested for *stalking* because I thought I was being sweet...watching her from a distance, seeing her through her bedroom window...
I thought it was adorable...up until the cops came and arrested me. All you can do is control what you are able to: YOU, yourself and your actions.

We cannot control how other people choose to sleep in beds they have already made.

I'm not taking anything personally. I understand the insults, considering I'm new here and made my entrance with a ridiculous OP. I'm just trying to learn from all of you who have experience that I don't have.

[zipzap]

But...I've been in your shoes...I've been arrested for *stalking* because I thought I was being sweet...watching her from a distance, seeing her through her bedroom window...
I thought it was adorable...up until the cops came and arrested me. All you can do is control what you are able to: YOU, yourself and your actions.

We cannot control how other people choose to sleep in beds they have already made.

Sorry to hear, that's sounds awful.

[zipzap]

Which would be HER choice to do so: not because of your delusional and incorrectly perceived likeness for you. See that?
Pursuing someone who is happily taken (by her own free will) makes you look like a creepy stalker who can't find their own love.

I'm not stalking her, just discussing anonymously on the internet.

[zipzap]

No, she doesn't. She likes to F uck with your head: and it worked.

I think she does, although maybe not as a husband (but I'll never know, since I never actually ask her out - see a few posts above). I think she was considering me for marriage, but was wondering why I never asked her out. DAMN!! I'll never forgive myself.

[zipzap]

Re-read what you wrote and then repeat, this is why we are not together

Not sure what you mean. By "I think she was also saying: too bad it never happened between us", I meant that she meant that she too was sad that it never happened.

[zipzap]

Yeah, and btw: why would the OP want to be with a woman IF she is gazing into other guys' eyes? Clearly she has issues.

Because I'm her true love.

[DarkHelmet82]

Can an admin delete this thread and ban this ahole for being a troll

[zipzap]

zipzap.. are you just trying to troll?

No. If I sound like a high school kid, it's because of my inexperience, not age.

[zipzap]

Can an admin delete this thread and ban this ahole for being a troll

What did I do???