In Love but everything against me

[P2k11]

Hi guys I'm 30 years old and I'm in a relationship of 10 years but I've had feelings for another girl now for like 3 years she's 20 but she's the most amazing thing I've ever met in my life and I only had the balls to actually tell her how I felt a week ago at a party that we were both at. There's more so please bear with me....

Ok so let me explain the situation,
First off this girl is alot younger than me and she is with one of my best friends and she's been with him like 5 years. Over the time I've known her we have had these little moments where occasionally we were alone and she would ask me what I'm thinking and I would say nothing (knowing fine well I just wanna kiss her and hold her) and there has been a time where she just came up to me out of the blue and kiss me on the cheek when her boyfriend leaves the room and I ask her "what was that for?" and she just says because! and I've counted lots of times where she has just sat next to me and leaned her head on me as if to cuddle into me but she never actually told me she likes me before.

Anyway getting back to last weekend where things have started to get crazy, I was at a party with her boyfriend and my girlfriend and she was actually working until 3 am but, I went to meet her from work with a few friends (mutual friends) and I actually explained to her that I loved her. From then on that night everytime we passed I could feel a warmth and kind of a force pulling her and me towards each other and on 3 occasions our lips met but only for a second each time and only one of these times did our tongues actually touch but it was more amazing than any other 2 minute kiss I've had.
NOW the most wierd bit is that the girl in question only had like 1/2 a glass of wine which didnt occur to me at the time but I realised she wasnt even drunk!!! WTF?

Well after that night I had to txt her back and she told me how she thinks I'm gorgeous and that she thinks my personality is the best ever and we have been texting each other loads. We have even made excuses and scenarios to meet up without being found out and yesterday we kissed properly and I just froze because I was soo nervous because I really love her so much but the very thought of her boyfriend finding out and hurting her because of me would probaby kill me. I have tonight told her that basically I do and will always feel this way about her and that now I know she feels the same way about me that we should cool it and maybe under other circumstances something may happen in the future and she's cool with that.

I just want to know what you guys think about the whole situation, her boyfriend probably would hurt her and I know I could hurt him back but her being hurt by him would make me sick and I would probably go to jail for what I did! Do I wait and hope she comes to me or do we try and figure out a way to run away together or what? I seriously just wanna marry this girl tonight but things are frigged up.

Any advice would be well recieved so please help me!

PS. sounds nasty but you dont need to take into account how my girlfriend feels because she constantly goes off with other people and takes drugs and is always trying to get attention off other men so if she does this she obviously cant be too bothered what I do.

[P2k11]

Sorry for the long post but I needed to eplain things properly!

[carl1222]

The two of you are already cheating on your partners. It's pretty clear where things are headed between you. The only decent thing both of you can do is to get out of your current relationships before things go any further. If that's not your or her plan, then you should stop it now. If you continue on the course you are taking, you WILL get caught, and things will become very ugly. Beyond that, there is no justification for cheating and you are old enough to know better! As for the age difference, it's pretty extreme for her. At 20, she is not looking to settle down yet. There is a strong chance that it won't last.

Carl.

[Kaius]

Two things stood out:
1) Your age difference.
2) Neither of you wants to continue relationship with BF/GF.

If she has been with her man for 5 years, that makes her 15 when they started dating. She doesn't know what she wants at that age. She is just messing around.
You, being 30, need to be more responsible. If you don't love your GF anymore, break up with her. The 20 year old just seems refreshing after a long relationship.
The 10 years difference means you have little in common....in terms of maturity and sophistication. Think about yourself 10 years ago....are you the same person?

You have strong feelings for the young one, but you need to know that the odds are stacked against you, and she is likely to find someone more suitable than you as
she gets older and wiser.

[SelflessnHumble]

Hi guys I'm 30 years old and I'm in a relationship of 10 years but I've had feelings for another girl now for like 3 years she's 20 but she's the most amazing thing I've ever met in my life and I only had the balls to actually tell her how I felt a week ago at a party that we were both at. There's more so please bear with me....

Ok so let me explain the situation...

lol, dude!

You don't need to explain anything to me.

If you find yourself to be a coward, or lacking the balls to tell your decade old relationship partner: that you have feelings for someone else:
Then you don't deserve to be with either of these seemingly stupid women that you take them for.

Let me see if I have this straight: You managed to use a pair of a nutless monkey's sac to tell a girl that you like her...but you cannot
manage to tell your unpaid hooker of a girlfriend with a drug problem that you no longer want to continue being with her anymore?


Sad. and this is on V-day too... Geez.