Why do guys watch porn?

[openheart]

Your man card has just been revoked.

Being a man is about more than emotionless sex and pleasure seeking. It includes putting your partner's wants on an equal playing field as yours.

[the_robot]

Being a man is about more than emotionless sex and pleasure seeking. It includes putting your partner's wants on an equal playing field as yours.

It is neither, actually. It's about having male genitalia and XY sex chromosomes.

[misombra]

I ruined porn for myself watching documentaries on the industry and seeing what sad and lonely people the actors are.

[DoesntMatter]

Most documentaries lie. I've seen documentaries on things I know very, very well that have been so biased and slanted that the people who made them (sometimes news organizations) should be sued for being so irresponsible

[LordJohn]

I don't watch porn. It's boring/gross to me. I'll look at photo shoots of scantily clad women, but watching other people go at it does nothing for me. I'd say if you guys are in a real relationship he shouldn't need to watch it, unless he's really unsatistfied about something. Some people watch it for weird "irony" or think about their gf's during it, though. But I think it is a "mild" form of cheating. I know I'm in the minority among the men here.

[surfhb]

Being a man is about more than emotionless sex and pleasure seeking. It includes putting your partner's wants on an equal playing field as yours.

I don't watch porn. It's boring/gross to me. I'll look at photo shoots of scantily clad women, but watching other people go at it does nothing for me. I'd say if you guys are in a real relationship he shouldn't need to watch it, unless he's really unsatistfied about something. Some people watch it for weird "irony" or think about their gf's during it, though. But I think it is a "mild" form of cheating. I know I'm in the minority among the men here.

My God....Is this the Wussy Man Forum? LOL. Ive never met a man who looks at sex from a emotional stand point....Great thread!!

[Anturo]

My God....Is this the Wussy Man Forum?

It sure seems to be.

Anyways one reason I like porn is to try out new things =).

I'm not as creative as I used to be, but my wife sure thinks I am.

[Lixer]

Uh... honestly right now I watch because I'm not with anyone so I kinda gotta go solo, lol.

If I'm seeing someone I might watch occasionally if she isn't in the mood and I am. Plus I'm always open to making my own if she's interested in that type of thing, much more fun.

Edit: Just read a few posts above. I don't see how watching porn is cheating, unless it's with another girl... Seriously though people fantasize about being with others either subconsciously in dreams or consciously as long as they don't act on those thoughts it shouldn't matter.

I guess the only way I could slightly see porn being cheating is if the guy never want to have sex with you. If that is the case he has some major issues.

[surfhb]

Anyways one reason I like porn is to try out new things =).

The only reason I'm decent in bed (or so Ive been told ) is because of porn when I was younger

There's legitimate reason men dont eye sex in a emotional way. If we all looked at sex like women no one would be getting laid

[misombra]

Most documentaries lie. I've seen documentaries on things I know very, very well that have been so biased and slanted that the people who made them (sometimes news organizations) should be sued for being so irresponsible

It could be they lied. Unfortunately I'm still ruined.

[jerybaby18]

I disagree with most of the posters here and feel that you are right to be upset about your boyfriend having porn. He is cheating on you by watching it and it is more than just "releasing testosterone" etc. It is evidence of a deeper void in his heart that he is trying to fulfill with an artificial intimacy aka porn. I would continue to call him out on it and suggest therapy and if he is not willing to stop I think you have the right to break up with him and see someone who appreciates you more.

No offense, but I think that is complete crap. Watching porn has nothing to do with cheating, and isn't. I think it all comes down to an insecurity on your part and that of the poster. Unless he has a serious porn addiction, like it takes over his life, which it does not... there isn't a serious problem.

[Regnent]

Being a man is about more than emotionless sex and pleasure seeking. It includes putting your partner's wants on an equal playing field as yours.

Uhm,what?
Being a man in a relationship, making love, or having sex is about more than emotionless sex and pleasure seeking.
What we do in our own time is all about us.

Personally, when a woman puts her wants on the same field as mine, I'll play 'fair'. Till then, I'll wank off when I want, to what I want.

[jerybaby18]

Uhm,what?
Being a man in a relationship, making love, or having sex is about more than emotionless sex and pleasure seeking.
What we do in our own time is all about us.

Personally, when a woman puts her wants on the same field as mine, I'll play 'fair'. Till then, I'll wank off when I want, to what I want.

Touche!!! And I completely agree with your point! I'm a woman and think this thread is kinda ridiculous. First off because, not only men watch porn, and secondly, what's the problem if they do?
Only when it becomes a bad addiction and is taking over someone's life , is there a problem.

[RawrIt'sCait]

Most women can't even begin to imagine how often men think about sex. We think about it a lot, and we want it every day. If you're not having sex with your boyfriend a lot, then he probably needs another outlet for his desires. Just be glad that he's jacking off to porn instead of cheating on you with other women.

That's the thing though, most girls find this as the same.
We don't see it as a 'visual stimulation'.
We see it as them watching the other girl getting f***ed...
That's why we don't like it...

[Love&Life]

I don't mind when my BF watches porn, but if the relationship is rocky and I don't feel secure with him', then I do mind him watching porn.
But I have to admit, when my first ex didn't show interest in porn (we watched but he was not aroused) I felt like I had a special guy.