Why do guys watch porn?

[tennissqueaker3]

I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years and we just recently moved in together. I knew he watched porn in the past and it was always really really upsetting for me, we actually briefly broke up because of it, I was heartbroken. I tried to get over it and kind of moved past it for a bit but I just found so much porn on his computer. he was watching while I wasI was sleeping. its so upsetting to me. we have a great sex life, we have plenty of sex, I give him blowjobs or whatever he wants whenever he wants and I dont understand why he still watches porn. especailly when I'm there. I wish he would have just woken me up and told me he wanted to have sex. it just really hurts. at this point I dont want him to touch me I dont want to have sex with him or do anything. I don't know how to bring this up to him because i don't want to fight and he always gets mad when I bring it up. I'm just so hurt and I don't know how to go on with this relationship normally.

[HeartIsAching]

Why do women read romance novels?

[DCbob]

i hate to generalize, but some men watch porn for simple visual stimulation. we are simple. we like to masturbate and looking at porn provides the necesarry visual stimulant to get off.
i would not read too much into it, unless porn is taking over his life or he is obsessed.

also, i think on some level, men like to see other men having sex. they would never admit this and it is not a gay thing. its just a curiosity about other men. that's why most men watch men/woman porn and not woman/woman porn. just a thought.

[VincenzoG91]

Most women can't even begin to imagine how often men think about sex. We think about it a lot, and we want it every day. If you're not having sex with your boyfriend a lot, then he probably needs another outlet for his desires. Just be glad that he's jacking off to porn instead of cheating on you with other women.

[tennissqueaker3]

but cant there be some compromise? men like porn. okay, so that's how men are. I HATE it. that's how I am. I've tried to deal with it and understand it and it really upsets me. so cant there be a compromise?

[DCbob]

but cant there be some compromise? men like porn. okay, so that's how men are. I HATE it. that's how I am. I've tried to deal with it and understand it and it really upsets me. so cant there be a compromise?

he could be more discrete. he could look at less. you could tell him that if he has that "urge" and you around that you have a better option than porn for him.

good luck.

[HeartIsAching]

but cant there be some compromise? men like porn. okay, so that's how men are. I HATE it. that's how I am. I've tried to deal with it and understand it and it really upsets me. so cant there be a compromise?

So you hate it, and want to control him and what he does? Nice. Hope you like being single.

[tennissqueaker3]

its not about controlling, its about having some respect for each other and caring if the other person is upset. what is with your attitude?

[HeartIsAching]

I hate control freaks.

[DarkHelmet82]

Women watch porn too.. my ex did

[tennissqueaker3]

why do you think I'm a control freak? why are you calling me the controlling one when I'm saying I'm not ok with something, he is ok with it? why he is not the controlling one? so its okay for him to do whatever he wants and I should just sit here and let him do whatever? isnt part of being in a relationship listening to each other and sometimes bending a little to make things work?

[GK001]

just tell him to respect u by not watching it in-front of u. he can jack off when ever he wants but not when u around....simple. dont think its unreasonable.

[HeartIsAching]

why do you think I'm a control freak? why are you calling me the controlling one when I'm saying I'm not ok with something, he is ok with it? why he is not the controlling one? so its okay for him to do whatever he wants and I should just sit here and let him do whatever? isnt part of being in a relationship listening to each other and sometimes bending a little to make things work?

You really want to hear it, or do you want to just get justification for your abuse? If you want to hear it, let me know and I'll put it together for you. I won't just do it if it's going to fall on deaf ears, it'd be too much effort for no return.

[vashti]

its not about controlling, its about having some respect for each other and caring if the other person is upset. what is with your attitude?

It's defensiveness.

I would avoid making an issue out of his porn watching provided it isn't interfering with your sex life, and doesn't involve children, animals, or fetishes you find unpalatable.

[cecilia]

If it really bothers you, he won't change his behavior, & you still want to be with him, why don't you make your own porn for him? Take racy pics of yourself or even videos & send them to him? So instead of getting off on porn, he'd be getting off with more thoughts of you.