Why do guys watch porn?

[jerybaby18]

You are looking at this all wrong. Men have massive amounts of testosterone, which in turn gives them major sex drives. His watching pron has absolutely nothing to do with you. Men release a lot of stress through orgasm. And he amount of sexual tension they carry vs. a woman is insane. Sometimes just letting it out with good visual stimulation is what works. Could he have woken you up, sure. But sometimes reaching orgasm on your own is just nice. And quicker, and straight t the point. I watch porn and am a woman. I do it to help me get off, that simple. And sometimes I prefer just that. He is not doing it to hurt you in any way. You need to start to look at it differently. It has nothing to do with his relationship with you. And takes nothing away from his love for you either. Men have drives that need to be taken care of. And sometimes doing it alone is what one might need at the moment. If he stopped having sex with you completely, and became 100% addicted to porn, then worry. Until then, just let the guy be. Let him do his thing. He is a man, you are not going to change that. You are not going to take that drive away, so let him handle it how he choses fit. You act like he is cheating on you, and that is not so. Would you be mad if he was masturbating without porn? If not, all you are complaining about is his visual stimulation, and that seems silly.

[cem]

As man, we explore porn because it gives us a certain way to fantasise about the her.
It expands our mind on things we wan't and would like to experience, it's not because we are addicted.
And lots of females don't seem to understand that.

On ther other hand tho if it has come down to the point where you don't want him to touch you, it's gotta be a little serious.
Best way to bring it up is, ask him if he still finds you attractive. If he says yes, then you now know he still has physical attraction towards you.
There really isn't a best way to bring the porn topic up. Next time you guys talk about sex, ask him if there is things he would like you to wear while you
guys are having sex, or things he would like you to do for him etc.
In reality it's just the base of talking about who wan'ts what.
One thing I wan't to get out of the way, we have drives, and sometimes doing it alone is what we need at the moment.

[smackie9]

Women look at porn too....don't kid yourself!

[the_man101]

I, personally, don't watch porn anymore cause it's all the same, boring crap to me. But, I don't think your man should be watching porn in front of you; that's just wrong and he should at least be more discrete about it.

[Kidwithoutaclue]

Porn has been part of his life for almost every day since his first pubic hair sprouted. Its his way of life and its not unreasonable to defend it. Its become more of a ritual than anything. What you have to ask yourself is why it bothers you. If its because he's looking at other women then I would take advice from Cecilia. Making your own porn could be fun. Help himm channel that testosterone into something more preferable. Im a dude and I think doing it whilst being in the house or eeven in the same room as you is retarded. If he will absolutely will not budge on this then he need psychiatric help.

[Mr.Meat]

Porn is boring, predictable, and doesn't come close to the real thing.
Make your own porn videos or break up.

[LonelyJoe]

I think it's more or less the fantasy of being able to think you're with another woman. While most men wouldn't cheat (I know I wouldn't) sometimes it just seems necessary. If it bothers you and he won't change his ways though then you should consider possibly backing out of this relationship and moving on to someone else.

[Ric]

A lot of women enjoy porn, too. I've had two girlfriends who enjoyed their porn even more than me.
Now, it's simply you that hates porn. Not nearly all women do.

I'd get over it if I were you, otherwise you'll end up losing him. Not many guys will stay with a girl if they can't watch porn. And certainly not if sex gets withheld if they watch it.
Besides that, ask yourself... why do you hate porn so much?

[openheart]

I disagree with most of the posters here and feel that you are right to be upset about your boyfriend having porn. He is cheating on you by watching it and it is more than just "releasing testosterone" etc. It is evidence of a deeper void in his heart that he is trying to fulfill with an artificial intimacy aka porn. I would continue to call him out on it and suggest therapy and if he is not willing to stop I think you have the right to break up with him and see someone who appreciates you more.

[therealjag]

I disagree with most of the posters here and feel that you are right to be upset about your boyfriend having porn. He is cheating on you by watching it and it is more than just "releasing testosterone" etc. It is evidence of a deeper void in his heart that he is trying to fulfill with an artificial intimacy aka porn. I would continue to call him out on it and suggest therapy and if he is not willing to stop I think you have the right to break up with him and see someone who appreciates you more.

i think you're gettin this guy mixed up with a woman who has feelings. We're guys, we watch porn, theres no emotion involved so get over it.

[therealjag]

Btw just for the record, my girlfriend has a problem with me watching porn even if I'm not around...she doesnt want me watching it full stop.

How sad is that

[VincenzoG91]

I disagree with most of the posters here and feel that you are right to be upset about your boyfriend having porn. He is cheating on you by watching it and it is more than just "releasing testosterone" etc. It is evidence of a deeper void in his heart that he is trying to fulfill with an artificial intimacy aka porn. I would continue to call him out on it and suggest therapy and if he is not willing to stop I think you have the right to break up with him and see someone who appreciates you more.

Your man card has just been revoked.

[DoesntMatter]

I watched some porn this morning and blew a load.

[Anturo]

Because sometimes you are not there (or have a headache) when we need a release.

So because we are visual creatures we watch porn to help with that release.

Simple as that. If you dont like it turn lesbian and film it so we can have more to look at. Thanks.

[DoesntMatter]

Oh, right right, I forgot to answer WHY. Because I woke up with an erection that wouldn't go away.