I've just found a bundle of love letters from my boyfriend's ex

[confused claire]

They were together 30 years ago and the letters span from then until about 3 months ago. They are full of her 'feelings' for him, if you get the gist! And lots of photos of her, and reference to gifts she has recently sent him.

I felt sick to the stomach when I found them - I have only just moved in with him and we are due to marry next year.

Am I over reacting? I think he should trash them.
I appreciate everyone has a past but the past should be memories, and should stay in the past.

They have also been in touch via texts and phone calls but he told me this stopped in September.

I would love your opinions please
x

[Jenna T]

Hi Claire
Old thread, but since nobody weighed in yet:
I would say that '3 months ago' is not in the past. Unless of course you two have been dating less than three months. Now, it is possible that it's one-sided. Maybe she just never got over him and he's being kind because of their long history together. 30 years - he would still care about her even if he no longer feels for her romantically. What is the story behind their relationship?
I don't think it would be right for him to trash them (unless it's something he wants to do). But you have every right to know exactly what's going on.

Jenna

[xxazurexx]

Crikey, that is a l-o-n-g time and to hold onto memories, although it would seem she isn't just a memory and if there are letters dated until recently and they have been texting also.

I'm unsure what to think....they obviously have never forgotten each other and that would be a worry for me.

[hello1]

I do not think this looks good. They may see each other as soul mates so why they never let each other go. If I was you I keep an close eye

[girl68]

So they were together for when until when and when did you come into the picture? In order to not have been cheating you would have had to met and got engaged in the last 3 months. I'm guessing this isn't the case. In which case he's been cheating for as long as you've been together.

[Anturo]

30 years ago? How long were they together?

How long have you been with him?

Was it an ex-wife? Did they have kids together?

The way you presented the box of unimaginables looks bad, yet there is missing information.