What compels someone into a one-night stand?

[Clifton]

you seem very intelligent and expirienced in most aspects of life, except women, which is odd, that is if i remember another post in a different thread correctly where you said you havent had sex in 9 years, that sir is a problem, that you should fix, you need to understand not every guy, and definitaly not every girl is out for a family and kids, alot of us just want to have fun, and that SHOULD be a goal in your day at somepoint, even if not accomplished everyday, you need to go out, and feel some affection and love, and have some laughs with a woman, even if it be for only one night, i cant tell anyone what to do so its just from my perspective that i feel you should.. im not saying you should mask your loneliness through alchohal and women, but its defenitaly good to be with a woman now and then, even if it does not lead to a relationship.

[daehehtnidekcuF]

To answer an earlier question you asked which I must have overlooked, I was in Operation Enduring Freedom, stationed in Afghanistan for 20 months.

another post in a different thread correctly where you said you havent had sex in 9 years, that sir is a problem, that you should fix,

Yes that is correct, I divorced 9 years ago, the last time I was intimate with another female was my wife, and I wholeheartedly agree with you it is a problem, one that beleaguers me daily.

There is no enchanted answer for me, I know this most of all, I guess the reason I came here was really, to get a better understanding of the people (female) out there who are actively looking for dates/personal contact/relationships and what they are expecting and looking for.

Because, honestly I have no a ****ing clue what women want today, when I last dated it was, well about 10 to 11 years ago, with my then fiancé.

People like you, who are single and more or less in-tune to the people and culture of today’s dating scene is why I’m here.

[Illusional]

up to this day, i have experienced most things in life but marriage and children of my own. i ain't ready for that, which is why i stay single. i love the single life and i feel that at times, girls can be more of a problem than they are worth. a lot of dramas surrounds a relationship, and i have this fetish when i always tend to chase the girls that already have a bf... haha.

raverboy

[Clifton]

Illusional we may be very similar then, i cant take the stress/drama right now, and my problem is that every girl im attracted to on more than a physical level, ends up being crazy (like the kind of girls who will sock another girl for looking at me) i dont understand why i like girls like that, maybe its some subconcious thing that makes me want a challenge, someone thats hard to handle..but on the plus side, my relationships, are always "interesting".

[Illusional]

actually i'm just ready fed up with the games that girls play. that's why i don't really bother getting into a relationship now. i'm content with the single life, yet i think that i'm getting to that age when i wanna settle down already. stop all my drinking, wait i better reconsider that... cut down my drinking and i suppose have a kid or two. damn i'm getting old already.

raverboy