I sent him *pictures* and everything changed. . .

[FlawedDesign]

Thanks in advance.

[xxazurexx]

So, you set off in having high standards, ie: no sex until marriage, for which the man probably respected you. Then you proceed to absolutely LOWER your standard in talking sexual and send him topless pics....and he will now be viewing you as an 'easy' piece of meat and he likely lost all respect for you.

He's probably thinking and that because you talk sexual/send topless pics, it will be easy for him to get sex out of you too and when you meet.

If it took SEX talk and pics to get his interest, the man is only after sex IMO.

And I think you sent them and to keep his interest.

He's using them for Jack off material like Illusional said.....and his mates are probably jacking off to them too....

and everyone on Facebook, if you two fall out.

[Illusional]

umm.... if it's not that obvious, then can i slap you upside your head? he's jacking off to your pictures and he needs more stimulation. he doesn't want to marry you because he has never met you before... right now, he's only interesting in his next party session with himself.


raverboy

[GK001]

He's using them for Jack off material like Illusional said.....and his mates are probably jacking off to them too....

and everyone on Facebook, if you two fall out.

lol Its prob also on some amateur porn site now with old pervs jacking off to it.Your a virgin right? hell yea...he just tested you to see if you would cave in. now he wants to bust that hymen.
+1 brainless chick thats in love.

[xxazurexx]

lol Its prob also on some amateur porn site now with old pervs jacking off to it.Your a virgin right? hell yea...he just tested you to see if you would cave in. now he wants to bust that hymen.
+1 brainless chick thats in love.

Aye or charging three quid payable by mobile phone for pervs to view them. Or blowing them up to poster size and selling them on ebay, 5p each....or free pics on piratebay...lmao

Honestly, why don't people think and before they do stuff like this.

[erik]

So, you set off in having high standards, ie: no sex until marriage, for which the man probably respected you. Then you proceed to absolutely LOWER your standard in talking sexual and send him topless pics....and he will now be viewing you as an 'easy' piece of meat and he likely lost all respect for you.

He's probably thinking and that because you talk sexual/send topless pics, it will be easy for him to get sex out of you too and when you meet.

If it took SEX talk and pics to get his interest, the man is only after sex IMO.

And I think you sent them and to keep his interest.

He's using them for Jack off material like Illusional said.....and his mates are probably jacking off to them too....

and everyone on Facebook, if you two fall out.

You have absolutely no idea what your talking about, I've been sent naked photos by three or four women and have NEVER shared them with friend or anyone. Nothing this guy has done based on what shes told us indicates he would do such a thing either, what made you jump to such an extreme conclusion?

If you ask me both are probably a little bit immature about sex, he's probably relatively new to sexual teasing and doesn't know how to react, but I can vouche that I once ended up dating a girl after she gave me a brief show on webcam, it was cute seeing her do that. Topless ain't no big deal, we all have nipples

[xxazurexx]

You have absolutely no idea what your talking about, I've been sent naked photos by three or four women and have NEVER shared them with friend or anyone. Nothing this guy has done based on what shes told us indicates he would do such a thing either, what made you jump to such an extreme conclusion?

If you ask me both are probably a little bit immature about sex, he's probably relatively new to sexual teasing and doesn't know how to react, but I can vouche that I once ended up dating a girl after she gave me a brief show on webcam, it was cute seeing her do that. Topless ain't no big deal, we all have nipples

Ohhh yes I do know what I'm talking about, lol. I'm an adult, not a kid...

He had hardly any interest prior to her sending the naked pics....that speaks volumes to me.

Regardless....not all men are like you and she is being told in so many words to be CAUTIOUS of sending pics and what can happen.

I see nothing wrong in cautioning people to the danger of sending naked pics to men online we have never met.

It's called 'common sense' and being smart.

Are you suggesting that we all strip off and send our tits and to all and sundry who may tell us they like us?? lol Sorry, but we arent all as 'slutty'....

Have you ever sent pics to a woman, with your dick hanging out? If not, why not?

And if you have, how can you be 100% sure where those pics are now?

You can't...

In fact as we speak, there may be women paying a few dollars to view your dick pics.....you may be a 'star' and don't even know it....

[warriormaiden]

I've.......been in your exact situation. And I did far worse than send him topless pics! I didn't want to, but he wanted them, and I was trying to keep his attention. Only desperate trashy, low self esteem having women would do that. The humiliation that I felt for myself was so intense, that I avoided him for weeks.

You should never, EVER lower your standards for a man. If you're feeling guilty about it now, it's because you know you did something wrong. If it took him naked pictures just for him to give you a 'I miss you', then he is DEFINITELY not the man for you. He is a douchebag. Now, he's just using you.

If you're not up for that kind of relationship, where he only wants you for your body and what YOU can give him, then drop him. There are other men who will value you for YOU and not for your body.

[erik]

Ohhh yes I do know what I'm talking about, lol. I'm an adult, not a kid...

He had hardly any interest prior to her sending the naked pics....that speaks volumes to me.

Regardless....not all men are like you and she is being told in so many words to be CAUTIOUS of sending pics and what can happen.

I see nothing wrong in cautioning people to the danger of sending naked pics to men online we have never met.

It's called 'common sense' and being smart.

Are you suggesting that we all strip off and send our tits and to all and sundry who may tell us they like us?? lol Sorry, but we arent all as 'slutty'....

Have you ever sent pics to a woman, with your dick hanging out? If not, why not?

And if you have, how can you be 100% sure where those pics are now?

You can't...

In fact as we speak, there may be women paying a few dollars to view your dick pics.....you may be a 'star' and don't even know it....

He's using them for Jack off material like Illusional said.....and his mates are probably jacking off to them too....

and everyone on Facebook, if you two fall out.

You consider this to be cautioning?

Yes I have sent pics of my dick via text, btw. Anythings possible but I'm not worried

[xxazurexx]

You consider this to be cautioning?

Yes I have sent pics of my dick via text, btw. Anythings possible but I'm not worried

Well yeah...I'm cautioning against where the pics might end up and it's possible he is jacking off....and his mates.

Who the heck knows what he's doing with them.....which is why people should be careful.

Sorry for issuing caution...how fcking thoughtless of me.

[xxazurexx]

I've.......been in your exact situation. And I did far worse than send him topless pics! I didn't want to, but he wanted them, and I was trying to keep his attention. Only desperate trashy, low self esteem having women would do that. The humiliation that I felt for myself was so intense, that I avoided him for weeks.

You should never, EVER lower your standards for a man. If you're feeling guilty about it now, it's because you know you did something wrong. If it took him naked pictures just for him to give you a 'I miss you', then he is DEFINITELY not the man for you. He is a douchebag. Now, he's just using you.

If you're not up for that kind of relationship, where he only wants you for your body and what YOU can give him, then drop him. There are other men who will value you for YOU and not for your body.

Amen sister..... This ^^^ as well.

[erik]

Well yeah...I'm cautioning against where the pics might end up and it's possible he is jacking off....and his mates.

Who the heck knows what he's doing with them.....which is why people should be careful.

Sorry for issuing caution...how fcking thoughtless of me.

what you said wasn't a caution, it was a statement without even a caveat. Seriously some of the long time posters on this site need to stop puting so much importance onto their own opinions, just admit your statement was overly blatant and ignorant

[Mr. Turtle]

Is it possible that maybe you had a real connection. I mean 11 years? Come on, then you guys start going in the courting direction and sex and you give him topless pics.

Am I off my rocker because maybe this guy has found the total package? Yes looks matter, its just the way it is and if anyone disagrees, ask the fat guy who has money in the bank and is a master in the kitchen and awesome at heart but a so-called "dime" "10" "supermodel" doesnt give him a half a thought.

Go for it. Don't hesitate. Any guy would be crazy not to and this guy may be awe-struck by the fact that he struck gold

[FlawedDesign]

He has always been wonderful to me (just won’t share feelings readily). Like I said nothing I've seen of him in 11 years has made me cringe. I have never done anything like this before, and hence the hesitation and confusion. The "advice" here almost gave me a heart attack.
I've never shown him anything other than my face (in 11 years). Only 1 body shot a few weeks back. Maybe he thought I was a 300 lb woman with a cute face. I like my face better than my body, that's why I do that. . . but he didn't know that.
He started being very nice around the time of the picture - that's when I thought we had really made a special connection, or I wouldn't have sent the pictures in the first place. It wasn't to keep him interested. In fact I tried to break it off a few times with him before (other than the one I mentioned – because of the distance), but he insisted we should AT LEAST meet before dissolving it. - and NO I won't to meet him in an abandoned building as I know most of you are gonna' assume.
The only big change was that he used to be very stingy with sharing his emotions, but he is not anymore. He knew the picture was a big emotional step for me, and maybe he wants to reciprocate. I have already started this conversation with him, after all the warnings in this thread. So I will know exactly what changed. It sure beats having to deal with the crazy ideas from this forum haunting my thoughts.
I am seeking this online relationship over dating in person, because topics such as waiting for marriage etc. are hard to bring up. . . and guys get overly touchy (physically) before I tell them, it makes me uncomfortable and it always ends poorly. At least this way he knows what he’s getting into. Plus I couldn’t think of a more perfect person for me, in personality, education, interests, intellect, hobbies etc.
I just don't know why people assume THE WORST when a relationship is online. People do a lot of incredibly stupid things in real life with men/women they've known for 2 mins!

[Mr. Turtle]

So what are you saying? You don't want this guy? I just don't get women. There are men out there checking off all the requirements in the long shit-list of things left and right and this guy has been filling the requirements for 11 years on you which he may see as an amazing investment that netted him everything he has ever wanted and now you are not interested? Is that what you are saying? I am lost completely as to what you want. What changed is he has an opportunity to really get on with it and wants to but now there is fine print at the bottom of the checklist?