Is my ex boyfriend ever going to come back

[Cherrydimples]

Me and my ex was together for about a year and 7 months. 2 weeks ago he broke up with me and told me he is seeing someone else. i ask him who's this girl he said someone he works with. They have been eying each other for 2 years but they never really spoke. He says she cooks for him and smooths him down occasionally. I have put so much into our relationship now he is telling me all i did for him wasn't enough. He is 29 and I am 33 years old but very matured i forget his age difference at times. He came by to see me today and he tell she's cool with him speaking to me and she's fatter and darker than me and that the world is round and we never know about the future. All he basing the break up on is that I don't cook on a regular for him. I told him when we move in together I will cook everyday but he had no patience. Lord knows I love this boy so much I got so sick my period came way to early. some time he talks like he will be back tomorrow and when he notices this he start talking negative. He said I was to good to him that's why he he can't stop talking to me but he will not meet me in my bedroom or in the living room we will have to sit outside and talk. Is he just taking a break or is it really over between me and him, I'm confused. How can I get back a relationship with this guy with out hurting anyone or myself. I have plans for us still.

[reeba]

He dated someone esle while dating you. It isn't like he broke up with you, then started seeing someone else. He was dating her PRIOR to the breakup.

And NO, this breakup has nothing to do with cooking. Has she been cooking for him for the past 2 years while they were eying eachother. NO. During those 2 years, a relationship developed while yours was falling apart. You can cook him gormet meals and spoon feed it to him while you are naked, and he will not go back to you. He picked someone else and again it has NOTHING to do with cooking. He probably just said 'cooking' because he thought that white lie was better than hurting your feelings and telling you truth of why he really broke up with you.

Stop being pathetic and groveling, and stop communicating with him. You might have plans of a future together, but it takes 2, and his plans are very very different from yours.

[Cherrydimples]

I understand where you are coming from. I taught the communication was the right thing but I realize that can't bring him back. He still says he can't treat me like a dog because i was so good to him. It's so confusing he said he will never date a fat girl now he's dating one is it because he's looking for a easy way out to get rid of her to come back to me. I really don't understand. my immune system has dropped real low my stomach is sick I lost so much weight in the 3 weeks the relationship ended. Sometimes I think he's acting cool because he wants me to accept his decision and he don't want me to continue being sick ect. i think his paln is when he sees I am strong enough he will slip away for good. I told she young and she will do anything to try convince him so she will cook yeah, but after couple of weeks she will get tired of it and complain because she works full-time also and there is much more things to do and see in a relationship other than cooking. I think i really need to stop the contacting for a while and focus on me and leave him see what he's lost.