My husband fondles me while I sleep? What is his problem?

[Regnent]

Divorce.
Put out.
Tell him it's ok to find it else where.
Maybe seperate rooms or beds.

Many choices.

@warriormaiden
I've actually made it a point to be distant publicly, and even at home. I can't be around her, and deal with the frustrations of having limits and such without just being a prick.
Seriously, what is the point in paying any attention when, nope you're not going to fool around in the car, and no, you're not going to fool around going through the door at home, and no, there's no straight to the bed room.

[Take2]

want2behappy, you have a MUCh different scenario than what I was disagreeing with hello1 about. I actively enjoy being awakened for sex, but I would be livid if my bf pulled the crap you are describing. Selfish and disrespectful, sex is just the venue where it is showing up right now. (By the way, I do NOT wake my bf for sex. He rarely gets enough sleep and has a hard time falling asleep, so that just doesn't feel sexy to him. I totally get that, and respect is far more important to the relationship than pretty much anything else. Plus, his insomnia means he can wake ME, and then we are both happy.)

The other challenge is that it doesn't sound like your relationship is really good with communication. You need to be able to tell him your needs and wants and hear HIS needs and wants, and work together to figure out how to work together so that all those needs and wants are respected and met. It isn't about fairness, either. It's about not assuming your solution or viewpoint is the only one. Like, you are in pain and think that he should just masturbate for 6 months and deal with it. He thinks, maybe, that you should show SOME concern for how challenging that is for him. You feel like he must not respect you if he won't see that YOUR need supercedes his. But neither of you is right or wrong.

If you could have had an open discussion where both of you honored the other's needs and wants, you might have been able to figure out a good solution for both of you instead of spiraling downhill for 2 years. You could still try that now, though.

[HeartIsAching]

she's pissed because she has asked him not to do that when she's sleeping, but he continues to do so. which is disrespectful. what part do you people not understand? would you want to sleep with someone that continues to do things to you, after you have asked them numerous times to stop? it would be a major turn off for me... anyone that does that obviously has no respect for their partner and doesn't care how they feel at all. how attractive!!!! not.

Absolutely. This isn't an issue of what she's doing that's wrong, this is him not respecting her enough to do as she asks. From her posts, it appears that she's being clear in her communications with him, and he's ignoring it - that's a clear cut control issue.

In the U.S., it's also a crime called [URL="http://definitions.uslegal.com/s/sexual-battery/"]Sexual Battery[/URL].

She's NOT being unreasonable when she asks him to do it while they're both still awake.

That said - I've been known to do the same thing in my sleep. Totally involuntary and unconscious, but I've done it. It's never been an issue for me, as my partner (my wife, now) doesn't mind being woken up at all, and is an enthusiastic participant, but I definitely could have been for some past partners of mine.

[Regnent]

Absolutely. This isn't an issue of what she's doing that's wrong, this is him not respecting her enough to do as she asks. From her posts, it appears that she's being clear in her communications with him, and he's ignoring it - that's a clear cut control issue.

Then she needs to divorce his ass, and move on with her life. She's either willing to let him, or not.
She has just as much control over this as he does.

[sweetkissesforu]

Does this post not die i think the OP should buy a blowup doll let him fondle it

[Sonrisa]

die post die

[sweetkissesforu]

Sonrisa if i see this post tomorrow i blame you

[Sonrisa]

you want me to close it? but then the fondling issue will never get resolved!

[sweetkissesforu]

He fondles her they are married if she does not like it
1) get a blowup doll so he can fondle it
2)slap him upside the ass when fondles
3)divorce him so he can fondle some other woman

End of post

[xxazurexx]

He fondles her they are married if she does not like it
1) get a blowup doll so he can fondle it
2)slap him upside the ass when fondles
3)divorce him so he can fondle some other woman

End of post

lol...I laughed loud at the bolded bit...

[SelflessnHumble]

He fondles her they are married if she does not like it
1) get a blowup doll so he can fondle it
2)slap him upside the ass when fondles
3)divorce him so he can fondle some other woman

End of post

Or he can invoke Sharia Law and then its "tough shit" for the OP.

[doppelgaenger]

The next person who posts in this thread is getting fondled by me.

[DoesntMatter]

The next person who posts in this thread is getting fondled by me.

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[xxazurexx]

The next person who posts in this thread is getting fondled by me.

You'd have to have pretty long arms and to be able to fondle my parts....

[HeartIsAching]

Then she needs to divorce his ass, and move on with her life. She's either willing to let him, or not.
She has just as much control over this as he does.

If he won't stop, I agree.

However, she doesn't have as much control over what he does to her while she's sleeping.