Thank you very much Xena for taking time to read my very long post. Just to tell you a few details, she had dated and had boyfriends previous to me, so it's not like I was the only person she ever dated, but ours was her longest relationship. She had ex's that were only friends even when I was going out with her. It wasn't a big deal to me at all since I trust her. As for the pen pal, he was just someone that she would write to and exchange drawings, since they both draw. Since her mom wouldn't be home, sometimes for days, with only her older brother there with her, she would go out with friends and hang out. However, I met her when she lived with her dad. I just thought I would add that in, I don't if it that makes a difference. Either way, again thank you, I'm glad for your understanding in a time that is difficult for me.