I need advice!

[Michellec]

TO make a long story short.
He was desperately persuing me, he literarly texted me 10 days aday and if I didnt respond he text again to ask whats up!
After a couple dates, I gave it and started to get a major crush on him.
But than I made a mistake by starting to pursue him!
Our texts went from 10 times a day to 2 a week. and after a while he even stopped replying my texts.

So..yes I'm aware.. he LOST INTEREST BECAUSE OF MY ''NEEDYNESS''
SO! now I decided to pull back... and stop contacting him for a good amount of time.

My question is...how long should I ''dissapear'' and if I want to initiate contact in a while.
How do I start? I certainly dont want him to think ''Oh she's back...''

I dont want to seem needy or desperate anymore..
But dont want to lose him, I want to give it ONE LAST SHOT.

[steviej]

Sounds like he enjoyed the thrill of the chase, and once he had you he lost interest. Wait for him to contact you! Give it a week at least.

[Michellec]

Isnt a week too soon?
Dont you think he'll start thinking..

''oh she's back''
since he's enjoying the thrill of the chase some much.

[sadie_genie]

These games will only eat you up inside. What happens if you disappear and he still doesn't pursue you? You would be more hurt because of your expectations. Do what I do: adapt the mentality of "I don't give a ****". If he happens to come back to chase you then enjoy the attention, if he doesn't come back then move on. The guy is flaky and wouldn't be able to handle a mature relationship anyways.

[xxazurexx]

A guy wouldn't disappear on you and simply because you text him a lot. If he's really interested, he'd like that you texted him...as long as it wasn't 'obsessive' texting.

I think he enjoys the thrill of the chase. In which case he probably was never really interested in you, but in seeing if he could get you. When he did, he lost interest.

Never show a guy more interest, than he's paying you - my golden rule

If I was you, I'd disappear for good.

If he's not interested, you won't magically regain it by disappearing.

A guy has to have a 'real' interest and to return.

[IncognitoSir]

I think he figured out you like to play games and lost interest in you.