problem reaching climax

[omgturbooo]

the only time im able to orgasm is when my girlfriend gives me a handjob. we had sex once which was both of our first times, and i wasn't able to orgasm, and its the same when she gives me oral. i cant orgasm. it is really bothering me. im 17 and she is 18, i used to masturbate on average once a day since i was around 13, but i cut that out hoping it would help but it hasn't seemed to. did my masturbation for so long cause any permanent damage? i am at a loss on what to do. hopefully you guys can help.
thank you in advance

[Benjii]

Ok, right. Overtime when you masturbate, it doesn't cause 'damage' but it extends the time you take to orgasm. Take me, i've masturbated since about that age, A lot more than what you did. However I found something she like and I like. She kisses the shaft and my balls and gives me a blowjob. Try that, but try it after sex so you're both stimulated. It should work. Don't think there is anything wrong with you because I doubt there is.

Best of luck!

[omgturbooo]

It was frustrating cause I didn't have an orgasm after close to 2 hours of continuous sex. Is there any creams out there that can heighten the sensitivity?

[Benjii]

I'm not sure about creams, but when you have sex try Durex tingle or ribbed. They should heighten your sensitivity.

[omgturbooo]

i'll try some of those. we just used the regular trojan lubricated ones.

[mjfcap]

dont worry about it...my 1st advise, it will only make it worse........seems like nervousness might have a little to do with it, just try to relax and focus on what turns you on(with ur GF).....maybe you can watch porn together?....maybe you can just discuss what you masturbate about and involve her in it somehow.......you will work it out, I have been there, I know.....relaxation and communication are your best bets, but worrying will only hurt, so stop it for your own good....good luck bro

[omgturbooo]

ya. weve been talking about it a good bit. she wants me to "make a mess" so to say in her mouth. ive just gotta relax and forget about it

[doppelgaenger]

Dude, you're just 17. You should be keeping your snake in its cage. There probably isn't anything wrong with you though - you're just nervous and stuff.

By the way, masturbation doesn't do any damage unless you're jerking with a razor-studded glove. You should be masturbating, too. Otherwise you get that man batter up in your noggin and get yourself into lady trouble.

[omgturbooo]

welll lately i have been using a piece of sandpaper...

[doppelgaenger]

welll lately i have been using a piece of sandpaper...

Well, as long as it's a fine grade, you should be fine.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Stop using condoms.

[queenofheartsNY]

BackUpOrGetStng, BAD ADVICE.

He is 17. Please OP, use. a. condom.

[vashti]

Stop playing with yourself. You are obviously desensitized. Also, are you taking any medications? A lot of them cause impotency. And definitely continue using the condoms. You are too young for a baby.

[bloodtippedrose]

Its a mental issue not a physical issue, dont count on creams and lubes to solve your problem. You should reflect on whats going through your head when you're having sex with your gf, which as late is probably anxiety due to lack of performance. You should channel what turns you on or even if you cant cum just enjoy the moment.

[omgturbooo]

That's what were going to do. Just forget about it and then it'll prolly happen. And not using a condom is completely out of the question.