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    Masturbating while your girlfriend is asleep?

    Okay so guys....I was wondering what you think!

    My bf and I have sex often (4-5 times a week, sometimes alot more). He has said before that I am not as aggressive or passionate as he wishes. I think I am pretty passionate, maybe not as aggressive because I have been used to something else. I never hesitate to have sex or give him oral. I enjoy it and have never seen any problem in that department---until he brought that up.

    ANYWAY here is my question. Do you guys still masturbate even if your girl is around? My boyfriend wakes up some mornings before work and jacks off to redtube or some other porn online while im asleep and sometimes just when im in the other room and he goes to take a shower. I mean he doesnt hesitate to wake up in the middle of the night to have sex with me, why wouldnt he just wake me up in the morning? Or come and get me when he wanted some? I understand masturbating is different and neccessary and I do not care that he does it, im just wondering if he thinks its too much of a hassle with me or he is bored?????? I mean I masturbate more than any other girl I know but not when my bf is around bc if i was horny i would just go to him.

    Am I too paranoid? Is this normal behavior for a guy who is happy in his relationship sexually?

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    I've never had a girlfriend who was interested in having sex at least 4-5 times a week. So there have been occasions in the past when I masturbated while my girlfriend was asleep. Generally, that only happened when I tried to wake her up for sex and got shot down, or otherwise knew that she wouldn't be interested, due to illness or a recent argument or something like that. Your guy sounds like he is out of control.
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    Wow. I really didnt think that was so much, I used to have sex with my ex everyday sometimes twice a day, even after being together for a year. I think the only reason my current bf and I don't is bc he has kids and works very early in the morning.But if he can take the time to do it himself why not do it with me since he knows im not gonna say no? So what gives?

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    Because sometimes we just wanna blow our load and go. No foreplay is needed, very little effort is required, it's selfish and that's the beauty of it, you don't have to think about anyone else!
    As long as it doesn't affect your sex life with him, i wouldn't worry at all.

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    Thanks that's what I thought. I totally understand.

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    Still, it's odd that your guy is getting so much sex and also masturbating frequently. Comedian Dennis Leary once said something like, "In the '70s, nobody had time to masturbate. We were all too busy having sex."
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    Quote Originally Posted by VincenzoG91 View Post
    Still, it's odd that your guy is getting so much sex and also masturbating frequently. Comedian Dennis Leary once said something like, "In the '70s, nobody had time to masturbate. We were all too busy having sex."
    Depends on your sex drive, doesn't matter how on tap sex is, it's good to just jack off anyway

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    I think something is a bit odd if I'm honest. To me, that is a lot of sex. I find when me and my girlfriend are having sex about three times a week (which isn't often it probably averages at out to about once a week) I don't really have the urge for anything else. That's not to say I wouldn't enjoy more (I would kill for a girlfriend that was a sexual as you) but for me three times a week would be the perfect number.

    TBH if my gf was like you, I think I would hardly find the need to masturbate and I think you would be hard-pressed to find another man that would still be interested in masturbating frequently if he was having sex at a minimum of 4 times a week plus oral.

    If anything I would say it was a bit of a compulsion for him. I don't wont to sound overly dramatic but compulsive behaviours can sometimes be indicative of emotional problems, maybe you should talk to him if you agree.
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    You know I am having a very similar problem, and truthfully it hurts my feelings that I am there, ready willing and able... and he takes care of himself... I don't need foreplay and he wakes me up all the time... I don't think he should be leaving our bed to go jack off to porn when I am available to him. Especially when he knows just feeling him ejaculate on me feeling him touch himself, makes me get off. I think if he has time to get off to porn then he should have time to use my body for that.

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    lol I can't believe what I'm hearing!? What world I am living in where people would use their own hand over a willing woman!? Will the two of you be my girlfriends? =P

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    Looq you made me laugh

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    Happy to be of service.

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    Ahh, my ex insisted that I wake her whenEVER I was ready, but I also agree, sometimes, it's really nice and easy to just bust a nut and keep it moving.

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    I'm wondering why you should do that. But I think it not a big issue because can't affect your relationship with your girlfriend, so you don't need to worry.

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    Well funny thing is my last boyfriend did the same thing. I caught him with a synthetic vagina lol and a magazine. It's just kind of a turn off. Do it when your girl is not likely to walk in the room and catch you with your pants down. I started to think, well maybe there is something wrong with me because both these guys are doing it but then I thought no Im pretty f-in awesome. I never deny him and im hot too. So then I thought maybe its just something guys do, that's why I came here to ask but now I am confused. Maybe it is a compulsion, maybe I attract these types? My guy does have emotional problems, like he really doesnt like emotion from me or expressing it himself. Maybe it comes down to wether I can live with it or not. Maybe it comes down to some guys do and some guys don't and if I can't live with it I gotta get the guy who doesnt? Like Looq? Course you want two girlfriends and thats sorta another problem im having with my bf which I will be posting here as well Holy rusted metal batman, what am I gonna do? I don't really wanna talk about it with him because we have had so many problems since we moved in together and things are finally getting better and I would rather not drop another bomb just yet. We still have great sex often and its not really getting in the way of that so its ok and im not as irritated by it as I was with my ex but I just kinda hate that I know it's happening in another room when Im there.

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