Boyfriend not that interested in sex anymore, dont really understand why

[Rebecca1]

We been dating over a year, since he started a job our sex life has dropped dramatically. He doesn't seem to want it as much as I do. I kept asking him about it and yesterday he said to me that sex was for making babies and he didn't see the point if we aren't going to have a baby. He also said the reason we had so much sex at start of our relationship is because I wanted it. I asked him doesn't he care that we haven't had oral sex ina month either and he replied that he doesn't care we haven't done that. He says 2/5 men are like him.

He does not masturbate and look at porn, he says he gets nothing out of it. I have asked him if he is asexual and he says no as he still likes sex just doesn't want it everyday all day.

Okay this is my first relationship. What is this? I have asked him if he is gay many times, always says no and I know he had gfs in the past and has a child, all his exs have cheated on him! I dont know what to think? does he just have a low sex drive? is he really gay but hiding it? I dont get it. I got quite a high sex drive and I am finding I am wanting it more now that he doesn't want it!

[Boisdevie]

He sounds a bit wierd to me. I'm a guy, I'm 47 and I could easily have sex every single day. Sounds like he's not into you

[98db]

Maybe he is stressed out at work. I don't think that is normal, especially for a young guy.

[Looq]

He does seem to be in a minority. I don't know anyone like that. 2/5 guys? Ridiculous. If your not serious, I'd just leave. Boisevie is probably right.

[girl68]

There are some men who do have low sex drives. Not 2 in 5 though.

My ex was like this. Wanted sex maybe once a week. No porn, no self love just low drive. I know he loved me, and I know he found me attractive. But sex just wasn't something that was a priority. You can't change him you either accept low drive or not. I dumped him over it.

[xinn1314]

well,unless he is body building or striving to do well in some sports or he is superstitious in religion....besides that i dont see why.

[Rebecca1]

There are some men who do have low sex drives. Not 2 in 5 though.

My ex was like this. Wanted sex maybe once a week. No porn, no self love just low drive. I know he loved me, and I know he found me attractive. But sex just wasn't something that was a priority. You can't change him you either accept low drive or not. I dumped him over it.

Yes its now gone down to two times a week. He sounds totally like like your ex. I even remember at the start of our relationship him saying, we shouldn't focus on sex and I got really offended and he never brought it up again but now it has come back again.

Maybe like other posters been saying he doesn't find me that attractive anymore? I have asked him countless times and he says he still does, he still gets erections over me he just doesn't want to do anything when he gets one. I have thought of spicing up our sex life by dressing up, he kept saying he like me too do that but now I do not see the point, if he isn't that intrested in sex then why should I bother? I know I want sex more than what we are having it now, it makes me feel unloved but I don't want to break up with him over this...I just don't want sex to get even worse. Even when we have sex he can barely last long and its been like this all throughout our relationship, properly because he doesn't masturbate.

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[devonbrown]

There are guys with low sex drives, just like there are women with low sex drives. It is just that we hear more about men with higher sex drives.

But, let me get this straight... you have been dating a little over a year and

Yes its now gone down to two times a week.

?? You do realize that this is still higher than the average for a lot of couples, right? Plus, your relationship has now gotten out of the "honeymoon" stage and settled into something long-term. This could all be a normal growth of the relationship.

I don't think it has anything to do with him not finding you attractive or having a different sexual orientation.

Good luck.

[bulrush]

1. He is, accidentally, making you for for some lovin, which many women find appealing and a turn on.

2. Some men do have a low sex drive. Stress also lowers sex drive.

If people are not compatible in the sex dept, the relationship often fails. This is a major issue. If you cannot solve it, time to move in. The three things couples fight about most are:
- Sex
- Money
- How to raise kids

These issues have different importance to different couples, but these are common issues.

[vashti]

Twice a week is within the range of "normal". Still, if it isn't enough for you, then you will have to find someone else with a higher sex drive.