Using an escort.

[josh44]

I have a really bad confidence issue with women and it's been responsible for all of my failed releationships. I'm planning on getting a high class escort to help resolve the issue and to hopefully make me more confident. I'm not planning of having sex with the escort, however, just some of the more "softer" stuff. There escort is a girl who attends the same Uni as me and I'm thinking of making a booking.

What do you think?

[Bonfire]

I'm not sure how it will increase your confidence as you are paying someone to spend time with you. It would be like if I bought myself a trophy and tell everyone I won it. I'm only fooling myself. Real confidence comes from real results. Why not focus your energy on trying for real success with a girl? Failure is only a step toward success. It requires work and dedication. There is much you could learn and improve on if you are willing to try and seek proper guidance. And most importantly, never give up.

[listen not hear]

Oh wow, that must be hard. I can understand you trying to find solutions for that but I'm afraid it's not that simple but I can see what you mean by lessening the stress attached to you interacting with other women you my really like. So how about this? instead of hiring an escort who will fake they like you and not let you know how you're really doing...not to mention get really awkward at the Uni or even put you in a bad blackmail situation if things don't go as planned...how about trying something else first? I suggest going very far away (out of town if you can) just far enough were you'll never meet these people again unless for a freak coincidence. And flirt with every girl you can speak to...cashier, bar tender, girl on bus, women shopping. Just work on your conversation skills. maybe make a casual date or two. Hit the club, that would give you plenty of opportunities. And if you mess up or do something embarrassing--who cares! Go home and never see them again. Plus, a few months (or if their memory is really good about a year) they won't even remember what happened. Even if you mess up majorly (like a funny story people would tell their friends later) they won't even remember your face after the first years gone. It won't be the end of the world and the stress would be less allowing you to be yourself and see what works best for you when it comes to opposite sex. After doing that for a while try it at home to complete strangers when ever you get a chance. Like when you're picking up your coffee or waiting for the bus. Then eventually you'll find yourself flirting expertly with women you've liked for some time. You can learn how to flirt and even be a good lover online. Just Google it, try watching some videos too. Good luck! You'll be fine!

[doppelgaenger]

A university student... wow, what a high class escort, lol.

This is a lame idea. Why don't you just gain confidence the way the rest of us do?

[the_robot]

I'm 90% sure this won't improve your confidence, it'll do just the opposite thing. Which means you will have a harder time trying to get other girls, so you may end up going with escorts for the rest of your life. Do you want that? I wonder.

[devonbrown]

I agree with the others that this does not sound like a very good idea.
I would suggest spending some time focusing on yourself. Bad confidence with women just means that you aren't confident in yourself. I say relax a little and focus on who you are.
And then take chances. Ask someone out. Hang out with different people. Expand your social circle. Realize that you don't have to be Don Juan to be good with the ladies. You just have to be yourself and good with the one who likes you for who you are.

Good luck.

[VincenzoG91]

I disagree. The first time I used an escort was after a disastrous period of dating. Several months of frustration and money wasted on various damaged women. No, they weren't escorts, they were supposedly normal women that I went out with. One woman randomly started crying during our second date because I said something that reminded her of her ex-husband, and she later told me that he got sole custody of their daughter because she shot him. Another woman seemed too good to be true... an attorney and a Harvard graduate. Smart, funny and charming. She eventually cheated on me, and committed suicide a few years later.

So I had spent all this money on dating, and though I nearly got laid a couple of times, it just wasn't happening. While attending a particularly degenerate bachelor party, I was told that I could find escorts under E in the yellow pages. It was true, and it was as easy as ordering a pizza. It was really awkward for me the first time, but it definitely boosted my confidence. I started dating again, and within a few weeks, met a woman who ended up being my first serious girlfriend. We were only together for six months, but we stayed in touch for years afterward. I wish that I had put more effort into that relationship, because it was better than some of my later long-term relationships.

To be honest, I gave up on her too easily because I wanted to do some more escorts instead of putting effort into making a good relationship stay good. OP, try the escort thing, but don't make it a habit. It's expensive and not very satisfying compared to a good long-term relationship.