Some advice please

[matt1973]

Hi all

i went out in a foursome the other night with my mate and his girlfriend. The fourth person was his girlfriends mate who i have met a few times a couple of months ago. Me and this girl flirted and talked a lot on these 2 previous meetings. I thought we had something going but nothing developed. So 3 momths later we meet up on this date and four of us go for a drink and we get very merry on alcohol. We walked down the road afterwards and hold hands and filrt by touching eachother etc. The we all get a taxi home and we kiss in the back and she says this should have happened a lot earlier in the night. I agreed anyway as she gets out when we reach her house i ask for her number and she says i will see you around. I was shocked to be honest. BTW she is 21 and i am 31

what dou you think guys?

Thanks

[abercromqt20]

basically i think the girl either just wanted to make out or she really plans on seeing you again through your friends. personally...... if i really wanted something to develope with a guy we would exchange numbers after that hard core make out session you had. but hey that's just me. the only thing you can do is wait and see. or get her number from her friend and ask her.

[misombra]

i think she's 21 and wanted to flirt with you.

[matt1973]

This is the second time ive asked for her number. I thought the timing was right as it was new years eve and i followed my instincts...... I Guess the age gap is a big factor for her. What she wants is different to what i want. The depth of conversation wasn't great but i was willing to give it a try with her.

What do you think guys that if this situation of a foursome arises again that i treat her as a good friend and resist any temption of getting physical or completely drop her?

[abercromqt20]

i would say that's the right thing to do. obviously this girl just wanted someone to make out on new years. So if you are up for that again that's fine. But don't ever take it as more than that. this girl isn't looking for a relationship from you, so don't ever look to her for one. If you are going to hook up keep all feelings out of it. if you know you can't do that..... do the right thing and stay away!