he just doesnt seem to b interested....

[cherriesontop]

i posted about this about a year ago on here and the situation hasnt got any better. i was just checking in to see if anyone could help.
i hav been with my bloke for around 6 years. we have been living together for 3. for the first two years he was like a rabbit with me - couldnt get his hands off of me. for the last FOUR years.... he has really shown little interest in wanting to have sex with me. We have a really great relationship and he is very affectionate... but he just never tries it on with me!!
Wen i posted last year , some of you said to try and do something more spontanious and different... I have tried a few things which seemed to hav worked but its constantly me making the move and sometimes he was even like "am not in the mood" and sometimes i feel like he is just doing it to be polite!!! i get cute underwear and prance around with it on, jump into bed naked, always make sure my hair and make up is great when we go out, make sure i smell good, wear nice clothes... i try not to do anything gross infront of him like burp and trump and stuff.... i try not to nag him...
i hav gained a stone since we first got together so i am now going to the gym 4 times a week to try and shift this to look more sexy for him even though he has let himself go a bit too and isnt doing anything to look sexy for me.
its a bit depressing really cos i love him but a women has her needs and from the sounds of it he watchs porn and masturbates when im out the house which doesnt really bother me but when he isnt trying it on with me - its obviously going to frustrate me.
do i just hav to except this sex free relationship?! grrrr

[pisces25]

There have been many similar threads so maybe have a look and see what advice was offered then. Usually the lack of sex is a sign of a bigger problem in the relationship, a healthy functioning guy should want sex on a regular basis. You need to tell him this is an issue for you and your needs are not being met. He needs to respect the relationship has an issue and play his part in sorting it out. Personally I think no amount of sexy lingerie or spontaneity is going to help until you find out what his issue is. Is he bored? Has his feelings changed? Is he depressed or stressed? Is he masturbating too much and therefore not 'needing' sex from you? You need to find out the reasons and he needs to tell you. Only then will you find a solution. If you were like rabbits in the beginning then he is capable of it and does find you attractive you both need to work on getting back to that point.

[Boisdevie]

I'm sorry but it sounds like he's not into you in the physical sense. And if he's not then I'd end the relationship.

[cherriesontop]

cheers. I'll have a look for other threads. He still gets stiffys around me when I'm naked but its like he cant b bothered to have sex anymore. I mentioned last night that I would like more attention sexually and he said he was sorry and that "he was getting old now" (he is 32!) and that he would try and make more of an effort - talk about romantic lol! When I asked him if he still found me attracitve he said he did and he always touches me and kisses me etc... But as for "getting to the root of it".... i have tried havin a convo about this with him but he is a bit of a prood and doesnt open up to me about these things... i feel well and truely stuck.....

[Boisdevie]

If he's telling you that it's because of his age that's complete bullshite - 32 is nothing. I'm 47 and could bonk my GF all the time given half the chance. If your sex life is non existent than there's a big big problem there that needs to be resolved

[cherriesontop]

well how mite u suggest resolving it when he wont talk about it with me and i feel like i hav tried to make myself as attractive as possible for him?

[oldskool83]

go to a doctor....i kiss my g/f i get hard and wanna hump her...thats jsut how it is...i wanna humb her all the time and yep...take him to a doctor. could be the best advice you get on here. chemicaly somthing could be wrong.