can i get some advice from a divorced women

[vashti]

A year isn't really so recent... if she is unable to get with the program after a year, I doubt she's feeling you too deeply...

(Separated for 9 months after a looong marriage)

[smackie9]

The jump into a hot intense relationship deal is what can happen after a person gets out of a long marriage or relationship. Then it cools off just as quickly as it had started....then they come to the conclusion that they are not into it as much as they thought they were and so they push away. I feel this is what has happened.

[ufas1987]

you guys were right. I wrote a letter today asking her to be straight up with me, would you want to try it again or just be honest with me and say there is no future and she doesnt want it. Well she doesnt and she said she wouldnt be able to handle it. I feel a great weight lifted off my shoulders! Im glad I didnt wait a month with no contact. Im done being hurt and depressed! Im being more careful in the future for sure

[smackie9]

So sorry for the out come....I'm truly disappointed in her on how she handled this in the first place....you most certainly deserved an answer right from the start and none of this "I need space" crap. Like many say on the forums, there is no such thing as taking a break or needing space...it is over and they want out.

Hope you feel better soon and find someone that deserves your love.