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[Petit Papillon]

Maybe she enjoyed it when you were together, when she broke with you, it was for a reason . You think that she told you why (wasn't it "it's not you, it's me" reason? ) ,or maybe she just lied and didn't tell you the real reason? You can't be sure I guess she's a normal girl and she probably do not believe in friends after relationship. Especially if she knows that you're so obsessed .

[DarkHelmet82]

it was more of a "my ex boyfriend who I was engaged too but is a weirdo who looks at transgender porno wont leave me alone" reason, but i havent done anything to make her think im obsessed.. i use this forum as a way to vent.. and yes i do believe she has been honest with me, no reason for me not too..

[Petit Papillon]

Shouldn't you be at least insulted? In the end she choose a gay over you , right ?

[DarkHelmet82]

hahahahaha no..I dont take things personally...and if i did it doesnt bother me as shes not back with him.. him being gay was WHY she kicked him to the curb.. but imagine being engaged and loving someone and then finding this out?

[Petit Papillon]

Yeah it's bad. But I still don't understand where was the reason for her to break up,right? She broke up with a gay ex, found such a great guy like you and left you after that cause her ex gay bf talks to her ...Hmm shouldn't she rather send you to kick his ass and tell him to leave her alone ? Yeeaaah real mature reason to break up ,she must have been in love with you.

[DarkHelmet82]

well he had a kid who she pretty much mothered... shes bipolar amongst other issues.. so im sure this isnt easy for her...

[DarkHelmet82]

i wont post on here anymore.. sorry to have bothered you

[Petit Papillon]

Oh don't be upset, I'm sorry , I won't bother you anymore ,come back!

[steviej]

Petit, regardless of his age and the length of the relationship, isn't this the exact place to come when someone is feeling how he is? You know DH isn't a troll and his problems with this ex are real, if you haven't the time/effort etc to listen to him fair enough, but making someone feel worse? I thought this forum was about support from like minded people.

[Petit Papillon]

Come on, crying over him will not help him. what will help him is to make him realize the reality ,so he can move on faster. don't tell me it's just me who thinks he's overreacting and way too obsessed with this woman. You all here are actually wrong. Telling him to keep on pursuing her and feeding him false hopes is bringing him to the very bottom of this shit . It's not helping, you're kicking the lying person.
Btw. No one but newbies who are during a break up or something similar themselves weren't feeding him this bull crap about butterflies and candies. Hmm I'm wondering why .

And no, this forum is not to put a pink butter on people's toasts . It's to tell them the truth , to help them . I've been here enough to see people like him come and go ... We never agreed . Someday I think they were getting bored of crying over themselves and they just stopped,both. Crying after their exes and posting here .

[DarkHelmet82]

petit.. the only way ill know if its false hope is if i try.... every human is different and not every situation is clear cut.. i dont see anything wrong with trying... if i **** up i learn from it.. but that how I learn.... and im not leaving.. even when i was in a happy relationship i came on here to help people

[Petit Papillon]

Ok,but at least try to write everything in one thread. Really. It's even better for you,cause people won't get confused as to where to respond to your situation and let's face it, all your thread are the same . If you want , I can help you merge them together .

[DarkHelmet82]

sure thing.. i wasnt trying to spam the forums... ill be more than happy to do that...

[leoben]

petit.. the only way ill know if its false hope is if i try.... every human is different and not every situation is clear cut.. i dont see anything wrong with trying... if i **** up i learn from it.. but that how I learn.... and im not leaving.. even when i was in a happy relationship i came on here to help people

People actually really aren't that different. Mathias and Petit know what they are talking about as do the many others who have said the same thing and aren't posting about it anymore. You already ****ed up and aren't learning from it, just threatening to not post here if people don't tell you what you want to hear. So here you go.

She desperately wants to talk to you. She's actually been waiting by her phone every night hoping you would call or reach out. Every post on facebook she's made has secretly been about you hoping you would notice and start chasing her again. What are you waiting for, resume contact!

[DarkHelmet82]

i wasnt threatening shit.. i was just saying i dont appreciate negativity and I dont welcome or want any in my life... And actually people are all different.. by saying everyone is similar is just plain ignorant