How to keep up the act of being a player?

**eo_ih** · 30-05-11, 06:22 PM

I find this interesting and I'm sure many of you can relate to it. Forgive my long posts, I can't write any other way.

Despite what many women may claim in this thread, most girls LOVE the idea of their man being a total stud. It makes sense - if he can have any girl he wants then she must be special to have been chosen. The reality may be that she was the first person he's spoken to for many months, but she wouldn't want to feel that he'll take anything.

Also she may want to "change" him and make him stop seeing other girls, to be with her - in that case if he ever gives up the act and just chills then she'll probably get rid of him (there being no further challenge), so he needs to keep up the studly facade. And don't forget that it gives them drama and BS to talk about with their friends, thus keeping you in their minds.

Context:
I am 24 years old and by most definitions, a total loser - I feel like a small child inside, I'm very shy and withdrawn, I hate bothering people with my presence, and so on. However - I have quite a good, handsome face and a decent physique. I look like I should be very confident and very successful with women, and numerous times people have commented to me that that must be the case. My shyness is misinterpreted as some expression that I think myself too good for anyone.
Any girl I meet brings it up quite quickly, and tells me - not asks - tells me that I've definitely got other girls on the go.
I was a virgin until age 20, then my next girl came 30 months later, next was 6 months, 12 months, 3 months and today is +6 months from that.
All but one of them followed the pattern described, and all ditched me when it became apparent that they were they only girl I was seeing, that I was not an influential, successful badass. You'd expect that - they came to me under a completely false assumption, so would of course lose interest when they found the opposite was true.

I've just met a girl, it happens 0-2 times per year generally. Like every girl who finds me interesting, she assumes and states that I am a real player and must have a lot of other girls around, like several each week. She seems to be very excited by this idea, not at all put off by it. I mean, like we were kissing and she'd ask about it and get really turned on. I've been ambiguously playing it up so far but it's very tiring. I'm sure many of you can relate to this.

I give it a couple of weeks and maybe 2-3 meetings max, before she drops from contact. I intend to stay aware and observant to see how it goes down and learn something from it.

How do y'all keep the wool over a girl's eyes for as long as possible? Some basic strategies, I think, would be the usual things such as delaying replies to her, being vague when describing what you've been doing with your time, asking to see her only infrequently, and referencing other girls mysteriously.

I'm no pro at this, though - how can I best achieve this while also being able to enjoy her company? Every instance of me seeing her, every hour we're hanging out, is another nail in the coffin as she gradually gets the picture that I'm not who she thinks I am.

bye

**eo_ih** · 30-05-11, 06:25 PM

0mg y not just find a gurl who leiks u for who u really are LOL?

**pisces25** · 30-05-11, 07:01 PM

You seem to be attracting the wrong women. You should be able to act yourself when you meet someone. If those girls want a 'player' probably means they have low self-esteem and are used to being screwed over. Try dating other types of women and you might find the problem solves itself.

**eo_ih** · 30-05-11, 08:47 PM