Please can someone help me

[Lozzy14]

I had been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years we are both 16 years old , and about 3 months ago i noticed he didnt have much time for me anymore and we spending alot more time with his friends which i obviously thought nothing really of and just left it. He had also been lieing to me alot about where he was and who he was with.However, he had also been spending time with his best friend Nathans older cousins which are about 23/24 years old. Exactly a month ago today my boyfriend dumped me, he had ignored me for 4 days leading up to this and i couldnt take it anymore so i decided to go to his house and ask what was going on; however, when i got there he wasnt there and his parents asked him to come home and when he finally did he was in the worst mood in the world and told me he didnt love me anymore and that it was over. Since the break up so much has happened he has a new group of friends along with nathan and he has started doing weed which is so bad because he has got into a football academy and he will ruin his future he is alsoi being added by lots of other girls which hurts me alot I had found out from one of his best friends that he slept with one of the 23 year olds i did find it hard to believe at the start but then i found out she had also been buying him expensive stuff and taking him to theme parks he also had pictures of her on his phone. I got so so angry that I put it on facebook which now i really regret because he actually hates me and has been calling me such horrible names whilst denying it i really do just love him we have exams coming up and i took some revision notes for him round his house and texted him and he didnt even say thankyou i just want him back, i want the person he used to be back!! i want to show him how much i love him and how much i care but i just feel like im pushing him futher away please help me someone xxxx

[tremolo]

He sounds like a douche. I know it hurts, but just move on. Seriously. No use in pining away for someone who doesn't want you anymore. Trust me - I know from experience. Someday you'll be glad you moved on and you'll probably laugh that you were so distraught about this guy right now.

I know it sucks to wait for time to do its healing, but you should really just try to salvage what dignity you can after someone discards you. Chasing them is not going to help anything. The ONLY chance you have at this point is to walk away and then maybe - MAYBE - the guy will realize he made a mistake and come back. Usually, however, they don't. So just move on, sweetheart. I promise, you're going to be fine.

[Cerby]

The thing about being a teenager, is you change very quickly over short periods of time. Relationships are volatile and rarely last through teen years because of the changes people go through. Honestly, you should consider moving forward, you're only 16.

From what I've read on thes forums, and through life experience, you really should live life and embrace it at an early age. Have several relationships, get to know different types of personalities, because if you dont, you'll find yourself in a potentially healthy relationship later in life that is dysfunctional because you don't know how to deal with different kinds of people.

Say goodbye to him, grab the next guy in line (after a few months of healing), and continue on!

[Lozzy14]

But i really cant let go, you have no no no no no idea how much i love him and i cant just sit back and watch him ruin his life taking weed this is just isnt the boy i fell in love with xxx

[jb1111983]

But i really cant let go, you have no no no no no idea how much i love him and i cant just sit back and watch him ruin his life taking weed this is just isnt the boy i fell in love with xxx

that's the very reason why you shouldn't be pursuing him anymore. He's changed. He's not the boy you fell for. It's very hard for you but being with him will hurt you more. Move on. And trust me someday you'll be happy that this one didn't work out. Someday you'll fall even deeper for someone you'll feel blessed to be with. I had a tough time getting over an ex of mine. Took me a long time. But now looking back I'm so happy it didn't work out or I'd never have met this wonderful girl I'm in love with now. The most wonderful girl I've ever got to know

[bigdaddy863]

if its tru love in a one leged pariot and i dont own a crutch move on teenagers always over exzagerate things and this is no diff move on