Suggestions for message to ex

[NoClue]

Quick background... she broke up with me because she's a lot younger than me and was scared that I would want to move too quickly, scared that I would soon want things she didn't want for at least a few more years (ie marriage, kids, etc). We havent had contact in 5 months. This weekend was her birthday, I want to send a message that hopefully leads to meeting with her again ,and rekindling something.

I want to sound nonchalant, cool, alpha... but want to intrigue her so she responds and wants to eventually meet. I know she'll respond if I say it right... problem is though I'm totally stumped on how to say it. Any help is appreciated...

Thanks!

Also if you think I'm an idiot for writing her at all please feel free to say so.

[reeba]

So you think in 5 months that her outlook on life has changed? Has she just become legal? This isn't some creepy post is it?

Just send her a generic bday card. Nothing emotional, nothing about missing her, just a simple card with no personal message from you, just sign it and that is it. If she misses you she will contact you. But chances are if she is the one that did the break up, and she hasn't contacted you in the last 5 months, then she isn't interested.

[surfhb]

Yep, but you wont hear back....Im sure of that

[MerryH]

I want to sound nonchalant, cool, alpha... but want to intrigue her so she responds and wants to eventually meet.

Don't try to manipulate her. Don't have a some sort of cunning plan. Just write a simple email with some small talk about how your life is going and ask her about hers. Keep it relatively short.

Edit: Wait, she broke it off because you want marriage and kids and she won't want that for a few more years? What makes you think it would work this time?