Should I move on or keep trying with this girl.. ??

[abhijeet123459]

I've been good friends with this girl in my college for 2 years now... I like her very much, so 3 months ago I asked her out on a date...but she said that she doesn't 'believe' in relationships and is happy being single and independent...( She hasn't had a BF until now.. ) We both are 21 years old btw..
Even after that incident, we're still good friends...but I've seem to have gone into depression, I can't get her off my mind...also she's going to live with her parents in another state in a few days, so I doubt whether she'll come back again or not... So people, I'm totally confused, one part of me thinks that if I just stay in contact with her via Facebook and messaging, she'll start liking me but the other part thinks that I should move on, but she's on my mind 24/7 ...
Also once while chatting she said to me that she liked me because I respect her and care for her ( I guess she meant it as a friend though..) I ABSOLUTELY love her, also I get upset if she doesn't respond to my messages and talks with other guys... Thanks for reading, any help will be appreciated !!

[Wakeup]

Why do you want to be her male GIRLFRIEND? You've been placed on the Friends Ladder (google "Ladder Theory" for more info on that). Just get over your infatuation and change your mindset to that of you being her girlfriend with ballzz and you'll stop thinking of her in a romantic/sexual sense.

Don't contact her unless she contacts you when she leaves for her parents. That way when you go weeks without contact you'll learn to be able to live without thinking about her 24/7.

Note: if she just wants to be your friend then start treating her like one of your male friends. I'm absolutely certain you don't think about your male buddies 24/7 and your male buddies don't contact you every single day to "chat" and use you for their emotional tampon.

[abhijeet123459]

But do girls change their minds later on....if guys "are there" for them always... Just asking..

[Wakeup]

Google "Ladder Theory" and educate yourself. If a gal isn't wanting to jump your bones then very, very, very seldom will you be moved over to the "potential Ladder." Any woman who denies this is a confused sort and you're best staying away from confused people when it comes to romance.

It's not impossible that she will change her mind about you, but it's highly unlikely and you're foolish to waste anymore of your romantic/sexual time persuing someone who does not feel the same way about you. Get on with forgetting about being a prospect for her and start looking for woman who want you the same way you want them.
Don't worry about her thinking you've lost interest if you're not involved with her in some sort of contact every single day. It's not your job to be available to a platonic friend 24/7 while giving up your own dreams of being in a romantic relationship with someone who wants to be in one with you.

[bigdaddy863]

I would keep in contact with her just because she is a friend if things go on from there in the way you want then great if not eglease you still have her as a friend and i do think that gurls do start liking guys when there always there for them just because its happened to me twice they realize who has been there trough everything and realize what they realy wanted was right in front of them gd luck bro

[Wakeup]

I would keep in contact with her just because she is a friend if things go on from there in the way you want then great if not eglease you still have her as a friend and i do think that gurls do start liking guys when there always there for them just because its happened to me twice they realize who has been there trough everything and realize what they realy wanted was right in front of them gd luck bro

How come you're not still with these women then? ... and how long did the relationghip last and are you still their girlfriend with man bits now that the romantic relationship is over?

[abhijeet123459]

I would keep in contact with her just because she is a friend if things go on from there in the way you want then great if not eglease you still have her as a friend and i do think that gurls do start liking guys when there always there for them just because its happened to me twice they realize who has been there trough everything and realize what they realy wanted was right in front of them gd luck bro

If I stay her friend....wouldn't it hurt me when she has a "BF" later on ?? Then how should I deal with that situation...?? I think it's best to move on totally...

[Wakeup]

If I stay her friend....wouldn't it hurt me when she has a "BF" later on ?? Then how should I deal with that situation...?? I think it's best to move on totally...

You are absolutely right.. it would hurt you and she'd use you as her emotional tampon when her boyfriend forgot to call her one night or, when he went out with the boys she'd call you and want to hang out because you give her the attention she wants. To hell with that.

Big daddy's romantic relationships didn't last the test of time with his platonic friend(s).

[abhijeet123459]

You are absolutely right.. it would hurt you and she'd use you as her emotional tampon when her boyfriend forgot to call her one night or, when he went out with the boys she'd call you and want to hang out because you give her the attention she wants. To hell with that.

Big daddy's romantic relationships didn't last the test of time with his platonic friend(s).

Thank's....that's the sort of of opinion I needed. I was an emotional fool before, to care for her soo much even when she didn't care for me at all....Anyways I guess it's her loss and not mine.... Time to move on for a girl who'll respect me for who I am