i moved this to the dumping forum... maybe that's more appropriate
I'm gonna make this short and sweet, since i don't feel like typing much.
I'm in love with a girl.
We dated for 2 years, living together for a year of that. we were happy and we treated each other very well... we're a good match. her strengths are my weaknesses and my strengths are her weaknesses. we really helped each other grow as individuals.
We both openly talked about our future together, and thought that we would get maried.
but then one day I came home to her and she told me that she wanted to break up. she said that she wanted her independence so she could be by herself and live an independent life. she had never lived by herself, she moved out of her parents house and in with me right after high school( she's 20 btw... I'm 23).
I could understand this, and I was supportive. I want her to grow as an individual and to truly know herself, so we parted ways as friends, but we both promised that we would be together again.
We continued to see each other a lot after we broke up, but that slowly ended and we haven't talked much in teh lst 3 months.
we had a serious discussion about our relationship last night... she just showed up at my house and apologized for how cruel she's been to me over the last week or two ( that's another story). we made love and talked about our future. she said that she didn't want to even think about dating me until she finished college (one more year of undergrad then 2 of masters) and she said she wants to see other people.
I have lived a fuller life than most people my age and I know that she's probably the best potential mate that I will ever meet. I am deeply in love with her and my two greatest fears are that we won't ever get back together or that anything might hurt her. I don't ever want to be with anyone else, and I don't think that I could stand her being in a relationship with someone else. I believe deeply in monogamy and the thought of her in bed with someone else makes my stomach turn and I don't know if I could ever be with her again after something like that.
I don't know what to do... should I just give up on her or what. Most the people who know us think that we will get back together, but I just don't know.
That's the condensed version.