What do men in relationships really think when watching porn?

[DannyH]

I think I have learned more from porn than from women I have been involved with regarding sex and sexual techniques. Did I mention I am a self-professed nice guy? In my opinion porn can teach a lot in the same manner that youtube has a lot of instructional material that is useful; such as the g-spot and how to find it. I think you may be stereotyping porn; all of it isn't really like that. Besides, visual porn can be more informative since a streaming video can be worth thousands of words on a printed page.

I have read cosmo tells all; and it was informative, but not in the same manner as a video showing the same thing, such as the dynamics involved. I have to admit it is more difficult to find stuff such as tantric yoga than it is to find debbie does dallas videos. I think I have covered a lot of conceptual ground that may have taken months, if not years to acquire from books or be perpetually ignorant of how ergonomic women can be. Thank goodness for the Information Age.

lol your speaking about sexual instructional videos and not porno. porn is just a movie that's focused on sex. Basically you just said you can learn how to be a cop by watching something the along the lines of the movie Bad Boys.

[Wakeup]

Oh for **** sakes... that's one long reach you've got there ctr. You should run over to that other thread by grneyedwhatever... she's buying what you're selling.

[Katmeow85]

I wonder if women complain because it makes it more convenient for men to engage women in their games, by analogy; especially if they are not in the best of moods. Like for example the SO starts to nag or play some game that may involve some male friends. In the past, the guy would have to go find a chick to "get back at her" and that could be more expensive and time consuming for guys than it is for women; porn on the other hand, involves a variety of women whom a guy can have cybersex with, even if only asynchronously.

So, as far as I am concerned, porn has "leveled" the playing field somewhat by giving guys access to a variety of women that they would not have had access to in the past. That could be what annoys women the most; a form of male equality while not becoming female.

Wtf are you on about?

[tremolo]

He's using a justification for porn that a lot of douchebags use - which is basically that since some women rejected them in their life, porn is some kind of payback, which allows them to 'have' any women they want.

Pretty lame if you ask me. What's more, it doesn't even make logical sense.

Oh - and most of the guys who say that crap are into some pretty disgustingly abusive stuff.

[DannyH]

I wonder if women complain because it makes it more convenient for men to engage women in their games, by analogy; especially if they are not in the best of moods. Like for example the SO starts to nag or play some game that may involve some male friends. In the past, the guy would have to go find a chick to "get back at her" and that could be more expensive and time consuming for guys than it is for women; porn on the other hand, involves a variety of women whom a guy can have cybersex with, even if only asynchronously.

So, as far as I am concerned, porn has "leveled" the playing field somewhat by giving guys access to a variety of women that they would not have had access to in the past. That could be what annoys women the most; a form of male equality while not becoming female.

hold up what don't throw that pile of shit on all men thanks. porn as a tool to level the playing field really?!? getting back at somebody!?! really?! Jesus I find that when my women nags its because I'm doing something stupid which needs to be put in check. The whole get back at a women by finding another women that's just a waste of time and brings other people in to the sick game. That's just so full of win. Porn is used for sexual arousal and erotic satisfaction not as a means to get back at anybody. Really getting back at women who play games by playing more games.. I don't go out looking for payback on stupid crap like that. I just work on keeping myself happy and that just seems to work.

[ctr916]

lol your speaking about sexual instructional videos and not porno. porn is just a movie that's focused on sex. Basically you just said you can learn how to be a cop by watching something the along the lines of the movie Bad Boys.

A more accurate analogy would be an instructional video on the g-spot on youtube or something similar; although, I have yet to find many decent "tutorials" on yoni massage.

[ctr916]

Oh for **** sakes... that's one long reach you've got there ctr. You should run over to that other thread by grneyedwhatever... she's buying what you're selling.

I don't mind discovering truth value through argumentation. It doesn't get me laid a whole lot, especially when I don't have any money.

[DannyH]

you get what you pay for.

[ctr916]

Wtf are you on about?

About porn "leveling" the field for some nice guys by providing "access" to more women than we would otherwise have access to before the Information Age.

[ctr916]

He's using a justification for porn that a lot of douchebags use - which is basically that since some women rejected them in their life, porn is some kind of payback, which allows them to 'have' any women they want.

Pretty lame if you ask me. What's more, it doesn't even make logical sense.

Oh - and most of the guys who say that crap are into some pretty disgustingly abusive stuff.

What is even more "lame" is that it actually works because some women get upset by those guys watching porn.

[ctr916]

you get what you pay for.

I am still trying to reconcile "getting what I pay for" with "the best things in life are free" in a capital based, market economy. So far, lucre is winning the "argument".

[DannyH]

I am still trying to reconcile "getting what I pay for" with "the best things in life are free" in a capital based, market economy. So far, lucre is winning the "argument".

Lol good job taking two completely different quotes and trying to put them on the same level. Youtube videos maybe free but I wouldn't exactly call them the best things in life. But hey to each his own.

[tremolo]

What is even more "lame" is that it actually works because some women get upset by those guys watching porn.

Why don't you ask any of the women on this forum whether they've ever been treated badly by a man. Men aren't the only ones who get their feelings hurt and feel like the other sex has an unfair advantage.

What a bunch of malarky. As if men should have free sexual access to all the women they want anyway.

[Katmeow85]

Men dont use porn to deliberately hurt their wives or gfs. It just does when they feel low about themselves. They feel if they love their bfs so much and they are enough then why arent they enough.
If they do use it to hurt deliberately they are sick.
How does it level the playing field? It just seems if they wrong you you wrong them. That is childish and immature.

[ctr916]

Why don't you ask any of the women on this forum whether they've ever been treated badly by a man. Men aren't the only ones who get their feelings hurt and feel like the other sex has an unfair advantage.

What a bunch of malarky. As if men should have free sexual access to all the women they want anyway.

What does that have to do with not being able to "practice" treating women badly by simply watching them on the internet, while those women are being themselves and not claiming they aren't really like that, afterward? How many internet porn women complain about men who watch them over the internet "treating them badly"?

It depends on what you mean by advantage; most guys have a much more difficult time getting used for sex until they clamor for a relationship. Why do you not believe in that form of equality; if women usually have "free" access to all of the men they want?

All things being equal, why do you believe some nice guys have forms of commitment phobia and not bad boys?