First time help....*warning LONG*

[Focused]

OK, I can't believe I am posting this, but I have nobody else to talk to about this and I would really like some feedback of some sort because it is a heavy burden on my mind right now. I know to a lot of you this will be funny, but I am hoping to a get a few serious replies back.

Anyway, I am a 22 year old VIRGIN. I started going out with this girl (she is 19) a few weeks ago and things have been going good. Last time we cuddled I kissed/played with the front of her neck and ears and it seemed to kinda excite her and she called me her "seducer". She has made some sex related comments recently so I think she might be hinting at wanting to go there. We already established that we are seeing each other exclusively, but all we have done physically is kissing and cuddling. Here is my real problem.....she seems VERY experienced. She admitted to having slept with a little over 10 guys. I have always been honest with her, but felt I had to lie so I wouldn't look like a loser so I told her that I have only been with 2 girls when really I am still a virgin. Yes, I know that was wrong of me, but I mean I am 22 year old, decent looking male and she might think something is really wrong with me since I am still a virign. In all reality it is really because I am kinda shy I guess. Well, she asked me to come stay the night with her (this will be the 3rd time) this coming Friday at a friends house. So if the mood is right I was thinking about going for it since her hints have been pretty strong lately. The main thing I am worried about is ejaculating too fast. I want to be able to please her, but it will be my frist time and how can I please a girl that has been with around 10 guys. I was thinking about drinking a few beers (not getting drunk just a little buzz) because not only will that relax me, but I will be able to stay erect longer (I know that for a fact). Any input on what I should do or tips to make me last longer?



Mark

[ka_xx]

ahhh, you should have told her. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but if you read a post in the "break-up" section, you will see what happened to one guy who didn't tell the girl he was with. As for suggestions for lasting longer, I'm a girl so I have no tricks or anything! I think you should be open about sex, because its very important to be able to talk about what she wants out of sex, and what you want out of sex. It will make it a lot more enjoyable, so I have heard. I'm not an expert, but thats just what I think.

[KirstyM]

Obv its better to be honest but I dont think it makes much difference, a virgin and a guy who has been with two girls could be pretty similar in bed; practice makes perfect and 2 aint that much anyway. Once you relax and start to enjoy it and just, no pun intended, get into it you'll be ok.. But ditto to ka_xx, I'm a girl too so I cant really answer most of your questions, obviously...

[gsgann22]

First if you want to please her spend alot of time on her during foreplay. I always try and make the girl I am with cum during foreplay. Then if you cum to quick she won't be as disappointed.
Second alcohol can make errections harder to get, (pun) you may not have trouble getting up but it will slow down the time in between. So I would recommend no beer but you do what you think.
third, after you cum work on her some more until you are hard again then she will still be ready and you will last a lot longer the second time.
and last try and cum about 30-45 minutes before hand (it can be tough to time it just right) any longer and it is a moot point, any shorter and you will have a hard time getting back up.

[Colleen]

Well, I've been with men of all ages in my 41 year search for the perfect **** (hee, hee) and it seems to me that any man with a strong sex drive has the potential of cumming too fast if he hasn't had sex for a certain length of time. This does not bother me IF he is willing to go another round and focus on ME! Most women don't expect marathon porn stars. Cuddling, touching, communicating is key. Even if you do ejaculate a bit fast the first time a thoughtful girl would take it as evidence of you being so excited by her. But just make sure you take good care of her the rest of the night.

Good luck! I was 20 when I lost the cherry, and my current BF who I swear is movie star gorgeous recently told me he also waited until he was 20, then didn't do it again for two years. So there's no shame in waiting for the right one.

[III Angie III]

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[Focused]

Thanks for the replies guys! Well, nothing ended up happening mostly because 2 other people stayed in the same room with us because they couldn't go home. I really know I shouldn't have lied to her about it. I just don't want her to think I am a loser.

Colleen - your reply made me feel better. Your right about ejaculating a bit fast means she excites me. I have NEVER thought about it that way.

Thanks again for all the replies. They really made me feel better. I'll keep you guys up to date on what happens



Mark

[sfalexi]

Tell her that those two girls were a REALLY long time ago (think years) and so it's been a very long time. Then joke around about you thinking your virginity might have grown back by now. She'll understand if it's fast if it's been YEARS since your last one.