There's nothing religious about letting go of past hurts to your heart, so you can love yourself, then advance into loving others. It's just good advice.
I don't "love" myself in a narcissistic way, but I am content with who I am. Now that I can accept myself as I am, I can love others as they are also. Except if they're jerks.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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