Analyzing

[FeelingCalledL]

I am analyzing my ex's behavior and would love to hear the opinion of other people.

So when I met her it was one year after she broke up with her previous LTR. In this one year she had at least 3-4 lovers/short term relationships.

So we meet on a Saturday. We go out on Thursday and kiss. I ask her out for Friday but she says she had already arranged for something else.

Later she told me that this other arrangement was her ex. And when they had arranged to meet she was very happy as she was "waiting fir this call for so long".

So she went out with him just to tell him that she is dating someone else(me). So her ex tried to kiss her and there was a scene. The waiter had to step in. Then he went to her place and was bagging on the door and calling her names.

At the time I found it very cruel that she went out with him just to tell him that she started dating somebody else. It was the first red flag I ignored.

What do you ppl think of the incident?

[Cerby]

I think you should run. There is clearly going to be some baggage issues in this one.

[FeelingCalledL]

I think you should run. There is clearly going to be some baggage issues in this one.

I wish I had listened to the little voice in my head.

[IncognitoSir]

I think it doesn't matter anymore. She's already your ex, now you know not to call her because she's just going to clown you in public...

[FeelingCalledL]

I think it doesn't matter anymore. She's already your ex, now you know not to call her because she's just going to clown you in public...

Thanks for your reply. Completely agree, doesn't matter anymore.

However you know how reality is distorted and blurred when you are in a relationship. Your feelings for the other person affect greatly how you see things.

At that time, I was really into her, so I got upset that this guy made a scene and all that.

Now, that I find her repulsive, I find what she did completely disgusting and cheap.

So I just post things here to get a more objective view, because I do tend to be hard on people.

[FeelingCalledL]

Red flag no. 2

We were together for 2-3 month and fighting all the time.

Since the start of our relationship she made it clear that she is not interested in marriage and kids. Then a friend of hers that is pregnant comes to visit.

She stops the pill and only tells me after we have unprotected sex. I react very calmly and say if you want a kid we can discuss it. She says that she will have a kid and if I don't want one I shouldn't be offended if she goes to a sperm bank.

I tell her that she has to see things logically. If she wants a kid we should move close to her family or mine to have support. We should get a house in the suburbs (currently we live in central London) because where we are now is not a place to raise kids.

After all those logical arguments, she says that I killed her child joy, and is not interested in kids any more! And all these in less than 5 days time.

[Cerby]

She stops the pill and only tells me after we have unprotected sex. I react very calmly and say if you want a kid we can discuss it. She says that she will have a kid and if I don't want one I shouldn't be offended if she goes to a sperm bank.

This isn't a red flag, this is a straight reason to just get the f*ck out of there. A red flag is when someone likes ketchup on macaroni (gross) or when they talk about their ex on the first date.

This is so far beyond that, these are the words of an insane individual.

[OmnicronPercei8]

I agree with Cerby. I think you may have dodged a bullet there. Thank your lucky stars its over w/o having to deal with her going psychotic on you or enduring a smear campaign.