OK.. so a lot of you know me. (Cerby Ill try to keep the thread under 10 pages.) haha. Im talking to two women right now. One is really beautiful, and quite frankly is really out of my league, I mean she's probably the prettiest woman I have ever seen EVER. lol She's got an OK personality but she is drop dead gorgeous. I would say her looks are better than her personality. Woman #2 has a great personality, but she's average/below average looking, and wants to take things reallllly slow (which kind of scares me.) Her personality is better than her physical appearance.
So my questions is what do I do? Do i date them both and figure it out from there? Im not much of a player, and am not just looking to get laid. Thanks
After all this I still have thoughts about my ex.. but I'm getting better in not letting it bother me. I let them just run through me.
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08-08-11, 08:21 AM #1
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dilemma..
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08-08-11, 08:41 AM #2
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I personally would take door #2, but that's just me. Remember, looks are a depreciating asset with no long-term staying power. Maybe you SHOULD date them both and see where it leads, but decency requires that you let each of them know that you are dating others.
Good luck.
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08-08-11, 08:46 AM #3
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Agree with Carl completely.
'People are never perfect but love can be. People waste time looking for the perfect lover rather than creating the perfect love' - Princess Leigh-Cheri from Still Life With Woodpecker.
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08-08-11, 08:51 AM #4
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well personality was a bad word.. I just seem to have more in common with #2..
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08-08-11, 08:56 AM #5
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I also agree with Carl.
If you feel a better connection with #2 go for her. If you're not sure, I don't see the harm in going on a few dates with both of them as long as they both know and it's not serious yet with either of them just to see where things go.
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08-08-11, 08:58 AM #6
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Having things in common is an essential part of a relationship, so is being physically attracted to your partner.
Is #2 too unnattractive.'People are never perfect but love can be. People waste time looking for the perfect lover rather than creating the perfect love' - Princess Leigh-Cheri from Still Life With Woodpecker.
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08-08-11, 09:03 AM #7
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no.. and i don't want to sound superficial.. I'm more physically attracted to #1, but #2 is super cool. My ex was a combination of #1 and #2... although I probably miss her personality more then the way she looked.... hmmm... thanks for the input.
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08-08-11, 09:06 AM #8
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When I met hubby, I wasn't attracted to him physically almost at all. He had a great smile though and that combined with how much he made me laugh was enough for me to fall for him. Over the years, I have grown more and more physically attracted to him.
'People are never perfect but love can be. People waste time looking for the perfect lover rather than creating the perfect love' - Princess Leigh-Cheri from Still Life With Woodpecker.
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08-08-11, 09:15 AM #9
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I'd go with option #2 also. I'd far rather be with a woman that wasn't stellar looking but was good company, than a woman that was gorgeous but boring... and boring is what you get when you've got nothing in common and aren't particularly appreciative of each others personalities. After all the lust wears off, what's left?
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08-08-11, 11:24 AM #10
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Well if you're not looking to just get laid and you actually might want to start something with someone i'd say definitely go with #2. I don't care how beautiful that woman may be, if her personality sucks it'll eventually show through and make her seem less attractive. if you have more in common with #2 then chances are you two will have more fun together and you'll enjoy her company a lot more. i'm sure you'd eventually get bored with just looks. Good luck to you!
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#1 has a great personality but #2 seems to have a better one.. thats all.
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Make sure if you choose number 2 you are sufficiently attracted to her though DH. Whilst I agree personality is more important in the long-term I have been in a situation where my ex wasn't 100% attracted to me and we broke up as a result. No matter how much he said he didn't care it bothered me that he didn't ever have those 'I want to rip your clothes off' moments with me, even in the very beginning. Originally Posted by DarkHelmet82
Some people are drains and some are radiators... Keep clear of the drains and hug the radiators!
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08-08-11, 12:51 PM #13
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Pick whichever one doesn't have a facebook account
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08-08-11, 12:53 PM #14
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hahahahhahah... no kidding lol Originally Posted by Horseyguy
Pick whichever one doesn't have a facebook account“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
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08-08-11, 02:08 PM #15
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no offense, but this is such a bad example knowing the issues that you are having with him Originally Posted by MaidenMinx
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