Facebook Friends

[farsong]

My boyfriend uses Facebook to add women who post "sexy" pictures of themselves. He doesn't know them or talk to them, but likes to "collect" them. Recently he has begun doing this more and more. I would estimate 2/3 of his total friends are these "hot chicks". Some of them are high school girls. He says he doesn't look at their ages.

It makes me feel insecure and sad when I go through and see in the news feed that he keeps adding them almost at a rate of 1 or 2 a day. I know he isn't doing anything but looking, but it still bothers me. I feel like I have a front row seat to his porn folder. Some of them are in high school and to me its gross to see them in their bra and panties. When I told him how I felt about it, he said he didn't see what the big deal was. I think he likes to be "accepted" by these woman since he does have low self esteem. I asked him to at least reduce how many he friend requested and to stop accepting requests from the younger girls. He said he doesn't want to feel "controlled" by me. The latest thing is he blocked me from being able to see his Facebook. His logic is that if it makes me sad to see them, this way, I can't see them. It makes me feel like these anonymous women are more important than I am.

Guys what would you do? If your girlfriend was bothered by it, would you stop? Am I getting upset over nothing? I think I need an outside perspective.

[tremolo]

Is this really the kind of guy you want to call your boyfriend? If I were you, I would dump him and start looking for a real man - one who knows how to treat a woman properly.

[Wakeup]

As my mother would say: "Give him the air." In other words break up with him now before it gets any worse for you. He sounds incredibly creepy and you sound sad and ignored.

[Borealis]

You're getting upset over nothing.

Guys love to look at women. It's their past time hobby.

If you'd ignore it he'll wonder why and stop it completely. If he was smart he'd never let you find his Facebook account.

[Evo1114]

I dunno...this seems kind of weird to me. There are thousands upon thousands of porn sites out there he could use instead. Using Facebook to get his jollies seems kind of stalkerish almost. Though, I'd wager that a lot of women he added are probably fake profiles.(?) Don't you have to know somebody by name to add them? I know there are friends of friends and crap like that, but it seems like it would take an awful amount of effort to find a random chick who has a scantily clad picture of herself.

[Twiz]

His behavior seems odd to me. You are his girlfriend, he shouldn't be looking to add other women who he thinks are "sexy" like that. It's disrespectful to you and you need to consider if you want to deal with that type of behavior. It sounds like it is bothering you and you have a justified reason to feel that way. I'd feel the same way if my boyfriend was doing the same thing. Porn sites and magazines are one thing, but the fact that he's looking for other hot women and adding them to "admire" just does not seem right at all. You deserve a man who will respect you and one that makes you feel like you are the sexiest woman on the planet!

[Mathias]

Stop it, people. His behavior isn't odd. It's gross, disgusting, immature, and ridiculous.

Dump his ass.

[Maze801]

Im gonna have to agree with everyone else thats kinda creepy. To be honest why would you want someone who likes looking at a girl that can put a picture of her self in her underwear (no offense to anyone its just not classy) I mean dont you want someone who likes class not trash???

[vampiress]

Another Facebook issue?
I take it he's considering facebook a porn? Makes no sence!!!! I don't know, either.