is it difficult to find that girl?????

[AMEER ALWAFA]

iam 23 and never have sex at all. and also never have a GF.

i love a girl before for about 5 years without telling her that i love you. and unfortunately she married another guy and i hope she is and will be happy with him for the rest of her life.

i really respected her and wish to have her but this is my Destiny.

all what i am asking is to make a relationship with a serious girl that leave the sex after engagment and we make sure that we understand each other very well before engagment.


i am industrial engineer and right now i am studing the master of engineering management as a part time and also i work with GE in LA USA. i met a lot og girls in college and never think to make a relationship with them ((fun is the most important thing in their life)).


the reason of not having sex now is , because i wish to do it with the right girl that i respected and want to live with her and make her happy for the rest of my life. i wish to make a nice memories that stick in our mind and never disappear. i wish to handle all the responsebility of our life and having kids. i wish to share all home duties cleanning cocking .... i wish to lesson to her every day for hours . i wish look on her face and just smiling... i have a lot of wishes it is like the dream of my life

i am not looking for the beautiness of the body and face

i am looking for the beauty of the soul



---- is the kind of girl that i am looking for still exist on this earth or not?
---- do i have a problem to be like that?

[devonbrown]

That type of girl definitely still exists and there is nothing wrong with you thinking that way. However, make sure you don't put anyone on any sort of pedestal, as that will only serve to have you be disappointed when they don't wind up being "perfect."

And 23 is still young. What about church groups or volunteer activities. There are people everywhere. Just don't close yourself off to things or people.

Good luck.

[AMEER ALWAFA]

Thank you very much for this advice


It is very helpful

[vampiress]

I think 23 is young to make such commitment as marriage. I don't think there's anything wrong with your attitude but finding such girl is quite hard but .... let's say... not impossible.

[AMEER ALWAFA]

If your sayin is the truth

And it is true


What should i do
Do i have to wait many years?


Realy it is hard to be found.

[maxmax]

Forget about your destiny.

Think about getting laid.

[vampiress]

If your sayin is the truth

And it is true


What should i do
Do i have to wait many years?


Realy it is hard to be found.

Broken hearts need time to heal... or that's what I've been told
I don't know when exactly your break up took place. but any sort of relationship you'll be looking for right now will be on the rebound... trust me.

[AMEER ALWAFA]

To be honest

I can't forget any moment in my past

I realy can't


But i am sure that if i meet my type
And then build a nice family i will be happy
And iam sure i will love again

[Kyrina]

Ameer, stick to your morals and beliefs dont get into a one nighter player psyche many guys have you will find that girl when the time is right for you.As you already believe in destiny then you are fully aware that when your time is for the relationship you will get it as long as you dont become closed off.
Good luck to you and congrats for being a morale guy who isnt just interested in getting laid

[the_robot]

Ameer, stick to your morals and beliefs dont get into a one nighter player psyche many guys have you will find that girl when the time is right for you.As you already believe in destiny then you are fully aware that when your time is for the relationship you will get it as long as you dont become closed off.
Good luck to you and congrats for being a morale guy who isnt just interested in getting laid

Do you really think you can make a decent marriage with someone whom you haven't had sex with? That's like living in fantasy world, it's close to impossible a really good marriage would come out of something like that. I'm pretty sure people who wait for that will marry too soon, before they actually know the partner and will end up divorcing pretty quickly.

[Kyrina]

Robot, yes i believe a couple with the same respect and moral for themselves are very capable of having a strong and fulfilling marriage, are you saying that you couldnt love and marry someone for anyother reason then them being good in bed ?
are you assuming that unless a couple have sex before marriage they are misguided and have no foundation to start a relationship other then what they are like in the sack?
what happens when they have normal every day things to consider,ie buying a house... are you saying that becuase sex is so important they will say "ok baby first one to orgasm says yes or no to the house " or is it a case of "hey honey sorry about the car accident and you being in traction,but you know i only married you for sex so now i want a divorce"
can you really see any of this crap happening , no i cant because sex is a consummation of love, respect and trust among other things in a relationship.I dont believe sex is all in a relationship and hell im not a prude actually highly sexual and although i think other things are more important in a relationship you can damn well bet your ass on sex not being the 24/7 necessity that will enable two people to marry or live to gether for any length of time.
I suggest you poke your head out of the cave and see if sex is so important in a relationship that all else is discounted.
Yes i do believe you can abstain from sex and have a damn good chance of having a happy decent marriage in this day and age, like i said sex 24/7 no thanks not to mention the soreness i wouldnt want a man who just wants to get laid, chances are the more sex they have with different partners the more chance of disease and the lack of morals and consideration you have for that right person.

Well unless your able to have breakfast, dinner and supper with a bowl of viagra

[the_robot]

Robot, yes i believe a couple with the same respect and moral for themselves are very capable of having a strong and fulfilling marriage, are you saying that you couldnt love and marry someone for anyother reason then them being good in bed ?
are you assuming that unless a couple have sex before marriage they are misguided and have no foundation to start a relationship other then what they are like in the sack?
what happens when they have normal every day things to consider,ie buying a house... are you saying that becuase sex is so important they will say "ok baby first one to orgasm says yes or no to the house " or is it a case of "hey honey sorry about the car accident and you being in traction,but you know i only married you for sex so now i want a divorce"
can you really see any of this crap happening , no i cant because sex is a consummation of love, respect and trust among other things in a relationship.I dont believe sex is all in a relationship and hell im not a prude actually highly sexual and although i think other things are more important in a relationship you can damn well bet your ass on sex not being the 24/7 necessity that will enable two people to marry or live to gether for any length of time.
I suggest you poke your head out of the cave and see if sex is so important in a relationship that all else is discounted.
Yes i do believe you can abstain from sex and have a damn good chance of having a happy decent marriage in this day and age, like i said sex 24/7 no thanks not to mention the soreness i wouldnt want a man who just wants to get laid, chances are the more sex they have with different partners the more chance of disease and the lack of morals and consideration you have for that right person.

Well unless your able to have breakfast, dinner and supper with a bowl of viagra

No, I'm not saying any of that. I'm saying sex is obviously a pretty big factor in relationships and it's become pretty obvious to me since I've been here (well over a year before you) there's hundreds of posts about sex trouble in couples, a lot of them will break their relationship because of sex. Of course it isn't the most important thing in a relationship, but it is an important factor, if a guy doesn't please the woman in bed, she will most probably end up looking for it somewhere else and the other way around. I'm just saying, if you don't live the relationship to its fullest before marrying, chances are that marriage is doomed. It happens the same if you don't "live" with that person for some time before marrying, you can't know if you are really compatible and might end up having big trouble soon.

Waiting for a decent person before having sex? I say yes to that, I've pretty much done that. I lost it like month and a half ago, and I'm pretty sure that, had I wanted to, I'd have been able to do it much sooner. Instead I waited and eventually met my gf, I'm pretty happy about not rushing it. I would still be with my gf if we hadn't done anything, but it is a very different level of intimacy, and I sure as hell wouldn't marry anyone without that intimacy (not like I'm planning on marrying her now though, don't get me wrong!).

[Kyrina]

Is relationship breakup's over sex the overall reason people split or is it that everything else is no longer there so they dont attempt to make sex interesting because the so called little things arent there for one or both anymore, i think that sex is important but i wouldnt split up because it was the only thing in the relationship that wasnt working i would help to heal this where possible,i would marry for love and other things never because of sex.To be honest i think that sex being the reason for many break ups is the other emotions missing and to say i fell out of love with him is still questioned by society but to say he was crap in bed is socially acceptable to the majority.
Sex shouldnt be so free and OP is on about sex after engagement possibly, well thats good you have a foundation stone to build and strengthen love upon already the emotions are there and sex is the final step to committment to each other.

Out of interest if being in love, respect and trust werent such an issue why is this forum filled with broken hearts etc and not just cobwebs on my pussy threads

[the_robot]

Yeah, there's other things lacking in those relationships, but when one of the things is being neglected, the rest are probably being neglected too. I still say you don't get to the same level of intimacy without sex, without intimacy there's other things that will crumble or not even get to the same level they might get otherwise.

[KingZ]

Is relationship breakup's over sex the overall reason people split or is it that everything else is no longer there so they dont attempt to make sex interesting because the so called little things arent there for one or both anymore, i think that sex is important but i wouldnt split up because it was the only thing in the relationship that wasnt working i would help to heal this where possible,i would marry for love and other things never because of sex.To be honest i think that sex being the reason for many break ups is the other emotions missing and to say i fell out of love with him is still questioned by society but to say he was crap in bed is socially acceptable to the majority.
Sex shouldnt be so free and OP is on about sex after engagement possibly, well thats good you have a foundation stone to build and strengthen love upon already the emotions are there and sex is the final step to committment to each other.

Out of interest if being in love, respect and trust werent such an issue why is this forum filled with broken hearts etc and not just cobwebs on my pussy threads

Kyrina, are you religious?