Why men want to watch porn with their girlfriend/wife?

[maxmax]

Woman window? Explains the curtains l guess ...

[Wakeup]

Woman window? Explains the curtains l guess ...

hahahahahahah

[sadie_genie]

That was you looking in the mirror, dear.

I have a very firm and smooth young ass. Nothing comparable to an old hag's.

[smackie9]

I appreciate your response. I do want to please him. For every 10 blow jobs I give him, he'll perform oral sex on me MAYBE 1 time. We don't have sex unless I go down on him beforehand. And he's never complained about anything before. So it's not like I'm a prude in that area. There's not much we don't do besides looking at porn. He just gets mad when I don't want to watch porn and it frustrates me. How can a guy expect a woman to enjoy watching two women and a guy having sex when they don't even make their own girlfriend or wife feel attractive or wanted.

Wow you just contradicted yourself...you originally said you have a good sex life, now after this post you sound dissatisfied with him. How about finding some else that can fulfill your relationship expectations and that has sexual comparability. It's obvious your BF is a douche....stop wasting your time here complaining about him and dump his sorry loser ass.

[Wakeup]

snipped... totally not worth it.

[Illusional]

duh... you doesn't want to try new things.


raverboy

[tremolo]

I disagree with everyone here. I think it's super lame that he wants you to watch porn with him and can't be happy with what you provide him in the bedroom. You've already stated that you provide oral 10x to what he gives you. I had a similar situation with my ex, and I know that he didn't *not* reciprocate because the oral was bad - the oral was good, and he didn't reciprocate because he was lazy and selfish. I have a hunch your ex is the same. At least my ex had the decency to compliment me in bed and at least give the illusion he was content with me and me only. Your bf is being really disrespectful by letting you know you are not enough for him. I hate to bring this to your attention, but it seems that you are not enough. However, this is not your fault. I'm personally of the opinion that he's a douchebag and you can do better. I would ditch him and find another man if I were you. You deserve someone who appreciates the effort you put out, and is willing to put out some effort for you. No one should be in a one-sided relationship - and it sounds like that is exactly what you're in.

[Vanessa]

I agree with tremolo. There are deeper issues here than him making you watch porn

[Wakeup]

Personally I don't think either of them make any real effort to please each other in or out of the bedroom and she should just leave or he should because both of them are just as bad as the other.

*This relationship is toast, she thinks she's just perfect but apparently he doesn't quite agree and neither of them are mentally equipped to figure out how to fix it on their own. End it or get councelling.

[tremolo]

Personally I don't think either of them make any real effort to please each other in or out of the bedroom .

Why do you think she doesn't? Did I miss something?

[sadie_genie]

Personally I don't think either of them make any real effort to please each other in or out of the bedroom and she should just leave or he should because both of them are just as bad as the other.

*This relationship is toast, she thinks she's just perfect but apparently he doesn't quite agree and neither of them are mentally equipped to figure out how to fix it on their own. End it or get councelling.

I agree with Tremolo. I mean, WTF, did you not read the part where she said for every 10 BJs she gave him, he gave her one and they don't have sex unless she goes down on him? There is definitely an imbalance of give and take here.

[pisces25]

My ex BF watched porn coz he was more visually stimulated by that than what I could offer. He never complimented me either.

OP if you don't want to watch porn with your BF then don't. Although I think you may be using that as the reason to express your dissatisfaction over his inability to compliment you on the way you look, which it seems for you is the bigger issue here (rightly so I have been in that position).

Also maybe after so long he is finding the stimulation provided by porn is more than what he is getting from you. If this is the case I would suggest to him to cut down on the porn to make his sexual experiences with you more satisfying.

[Wakeup]

Why do you think she doesn't? Did I miss something?

Well, I get that impression from this statement:

I can probably count the compliments he has given me in 7 years on one hand.

She's only 24 and she's been with this guy for 7years. I would imagine that they've both just let things get stale and he is trying to spice things up and doesn't know how except to use porn as his guide. He's told her he'd like her to blow him like the girl in the film. Just because she thinks she's doing a good blow job it doesn't necessarily mean that she is either. I don't think too many guys would complain though in fear of getting zero blow jobs so I suspect that he's just trying to tell her (in his crappy way) how she can improve. All assuption of course but that's the vibe I got from the OP.

I also come to that conclusion that things are'nt as bad as she whines about because I cannot comprehend why if they were that bad and he was that vile why she would stay with him for 7 years without having had this situation resolved or have left him by now. *boggled*

I agree with Pisces:

*Also maybe after so long he is finding the stimulation provided by porn is more than what he is getting from you. If this is the case I would suggest to him to cut down on the porn to make his sexual experiences with you more satisfying.

OP: Quit watching with him and show him what you'd like him to do to you to make you more stimulating to him.

[sadie_genie]

Also maybe after so long he is finding the stimulation provided by porn is more than what he is getting from you. If this is the case I would suggest to him to cut down on the porn to make his sexual experiences with you more satisfying.

Finally, a poster who doesn't push the issue to counselling.

I think more communication about needs and wants is important rather than resort to porn (unless both parties likes it).

Ladyrider, make sure he knows that his behaviour is making you feel undesirable and make sure he knows the extent that it is affecting you. Communication is really important. Rather than asking strangers online about why he wants to watch porn with you, you can directly ask him why he is doing so. Most of us don't know about the nature of your relationship and would make lots of assumptions in an attempt to figure out what is going on in his mind. Most likely, it would be far from accurate, so ask him directly yourself. Most guys would be honest about it.

[HeartIsAching]

I appreciate your response. I do want to please him. For every 10 blow jobs I give him, he'll perform oral sex on me MAYBE 1 time. We don't have sex unless I go down on him beforehand. And he's never complained about anything before. So it's not like I'm a prude in that area. There's not much we don't do besides looking at porn. He just gets mad when I don't want to watch porn and it frustrates me. How can a guy expect a woman to enjoy watching two women and a guy having sex when they don't even make their own girlfriend or wife feel attractive or wanted.

Ok... this is a separate issue. You're treating sex as an exchange. It shouldn't be an exchange, it should be freely given. If he's not giving you enough oral sex, then friggin' SAY SO.