Why men want to watch porn with their girlfriend/wife?

[Ladyrider21]

Hey guys,

Why do men want to watch porn with their wife or girlfriend? My boyfriend of 7 years has started pushing the porn issue. We have a good sex life. I just don't feel all that comfortable watching porn with him. He never compliments me or tells me he thinks I'm sexy, hot, or even pretty. I'm 24 and I'm not unattractive. I am physically fit and take good care of myself. I can probably count the compliments he has given me in 7 years on one hand. I know he loves me, I think it's just because of how he grew up and he never had a male role model that treated his mother with respect. Or at least that's the excuse I give him. Am I wrong for not wanting to watch porn with him when I already feel unattractive to him to begin with. I've bought lingerie one time and wore it and he never said a word about it or asked to see it again or anything. But rather he wants me to watch porn with a threesome with 2 girls and one guy. We watched some a couple weeks ago and then wants to ask me if I find the other girls hot. I'm not interested in girls and I wanted to say "it'd be nice if you could use my name and hot in the same sentence". Then when one of the girls was performing oral sex on the guy, he tells me to watch and wants me to do the same thing to him. I am not a porn star nor do I aspire to be one. I don't want to be a prude and I don't want to push him away but jeeeze, I just don't want to watch other women that he obviously finds hot yet can't give me a compliment or say anything to me that makes me feel sexy or attractive or anything!

And the thing is, I don't even care if he watches porn by himself! He can watch it till he's blue in the face. I just wonder why guys want to watch it as a couple.

[Wakeup]

Why men want to watch porn with their girlfriend/wife?

Probably because he's hoping that the visual will stimulate you as much as it stimulates him and it will get him laid without having to work at it. For most women sex starts in the brain, in our thoughts but sometime men forget that and think we think like them and that just watching porn with them wil ALWAYS get us in the mood. I think men who only want to watch porn with you to get you ready are lazy fks.
You need to tell him no, if you want to get laid then you're going to have to seduce me yourself and take me out so we can have some fun while you work your magic on me.

Then when one of the girls was performing oral sex on the guy, he tells me to watch and wants me to do the same thing to him. I am not a porn star nor do I aspire to be one.

You might wanna get over yourself. You should want to be pleasing your man and if you did then he's more likely to show you the affection that you so desire. It takes two people to be conceding to one another once in a while to make a union a happy one. It sounds like he wants you to watch so that you learn how to be what he perceives to be a good lover.

[Ladyrider21]

You might wanna get over yourself. You should want to be pleasing your man and if you did then he's more likely to show you the affection that you so desire. It takes two people to be conceding to one another once in a while to make a union a happy one. It sounds like he wants you to watch so that you learn how to be what he perceives to be a good lover.

I appreciate your response. I do want to please him. For every 10 blow jobs I give him, he'll perform oral sex on me MAYBE 1 time. We don't have sex unless I go down on him beforehand. And he's never complained about anything before. So it's not like I'm a prude in that area. There's not much we don't do besides looking at porn. He just gets mad when I don't want to watch porn and it frustrates me. How can a guy expect a woman to enjoy watching two women and a guy having sex when they don't even make their own girlfriend or wife feel attractive or wanted.

[Phoenix23]

It does sound like he's having trouble being fulfilled by you alone, and from the sound of it he shouldn't have that problem, so don't go blaming yourself. Maybe he's reaching the point where he yearns to experience other women to see what he's missing, considering your ages and the fact that you've been together through most of your youn 20s and late teens.
He may even be trying to see if you'd be open to the idea of a threesome.

I get the sense that maybe you need to find someone who can appreciate you for what you have to offer. Why hasn't he wanted to marry you after 7 years?

[rafterman]

It does sound like he's having trouble being fulfilled by you alone, and from the sound of it he shouldn't have that problem, so don't go blaming yourself. Maybe he's reaching the point where he yearns to experience other women to see what he's missing, considering your ages and the fact that you've been together through most of your youn 20s and late teens.
He may even be trying to see if you'd be open to the idea of a threesome.

I get the sense that maybe you need to find someone who can appreciate you for what you have to offer. Why hasn't he wanted to marry you after 7 years?

You are "special" Phoenix23, and not in a good way....LOL

[maxmax]

How open are the two of you when it comes to talking about what you like sexually?

Maybe he wants you to watch with him to give you an idea of things he'd like to try with you?

Could be. Depends on what you're watching exactly, and how adventurous you currently are in the bedroom.

[Wakeup]

"So don't go blaming yourself?" Yea, okaaay. Look it takes TWO people to be in a happy union. OP: Why don't you talk to him about this instead of bitching here and expecting us to work some magic for you. If you aren't happy then talk to him. If after you talk to him and he doesn't try to make any changes (hopefully he'll tell you where your shit don't stick too so you can improve on the dynamic of your union as well (remember takes two people to make a happy union) then get away from him by breaking up from what you perceive him to be, which is unloving and a lazy ass porn lover. I have to ask myself why you would stay with someone for so long if you're so bloody unhappy and hard done by?

[sadie_genie]

No compliments? I wonder how this man could have possibly done to woo you in the first place.

[Wakeup]

... Big Dick? ... ... Or suit? ...

[sadie_genie]

... Big Dick? ....

Up your wrinkled ass.

[smackie9]

I prefer to watch it by myself.....sometime you just want your alone time too.

[Kyrina]

Why dont you just say yes to watching it with him and as he is so damn tight on the compliments watch the guys in the screen and wow over them, maybe you wont be so worried that he finds these women hot and maybe he wont ask again if you think the men are hot ok seen one dick seen them all they say well that depends.To be honest if he is looking for other holes to fill then he might think again if he sees you all hot and nasty for another dick.WOW how crude of me lol but watch it and compliment the guys and hun let any inhibitions ride out the window for you and show him you can be hotter then the plastic boobed barbie with the elastic woman window (didnt know a nice word for it so shoot me

[Wakeup]

"Woman Window?" .. lmao.. good one.

[Wakeup]

Up your wrinkled ass.

That was you looking in the mirror, dear.

[maxmax]

I like watching boobies.