I was looking for a handyman to do a small repair job on my Mom’s house. I found one who only lives a block away from her. Last week, I called him and asked if I could come by to talk about the job. He told me ‘Sure, no problem.’
He was home with his college-aged son and their two dogs. Being a huge animal lover, we began talking about animals then kids and grandkids. Fairly comfortable talking with each other. He’s in his 50’s (same as me), divorced for years and he’s cute! But, he is shy and kind of quiet. He seems to be from the ‘old school’ ways. There was a lot of “Yes ma’am, No ma’am” type talk. Very respectful. One of those down-to-earth Texas boys. Whereas I am very outgoing/talkative.
I’m used to meeting guys who are outgoing, talkative and computer literate. We’d communicate through email/text/IM, etc. It’s so much easier (for me anyway) to get to know people through those methods-- easier to ‘talk’ to them. This guy has no computer-- knows nothing about them and he has a regular house phone-- not a cell phone.
I’m going to see him tomorrow when we meet at Mom’s so he can give an estimate on how much the job will cost. Once the job is done, I won’t have a reason/excuse to see him again.
How can I let him know I’m interested in seeing him in a subtle way that won’t overwhelm him/ scare him off?