HI Guys
i have been known this girl for 2 months through one of my friend.
we got very closer and i told her today to marry me.
she denied at first later she went to complete dilemma because her previous BF Cheated her.
so she dont want to suffer that pain again.
I have given some time to think about the marriage and also i am not at all speaking about this to her.
Am i doing right like not forcing her OR I need to change...
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15-09-11, 08:20 PM #1
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Need advice
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15-09-11, 10:00 PM #2
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W.t.f?!?!!?!?!
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15-09-11, 10:07 PM #3
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In America, current wisdom says you do not marry someone until you have dated a year, then lived together for another year. You truly do not know someone until you have lived together for a while. That's 2 years total of dating before marriage. You sir, are setting yourself up for disaster. Statistics prove that people who do not date long, have a much higher divorce rate. Also, people who marry young, have a much higher divorce rate. Also, the divorce rate of US military members is about 80%, not that it matters in this case.
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15-09-11, 10:12 PM #4
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You have known her for two months... I doubt that you are ready to marry her. Stop being so serious and just take things as they go. Don't pressure this girl.
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15-09-11, 10:13 PM #5
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All the bits that I've bolded... I hope it's language difficulties and not what it looks like.
Originally Posted by smartguy
Or did you really TELL a woman you've been dating for a mere two months to marry you, and now that she's turned you down you're wondering if you should force her?
Gah... I hope not.
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15-09-11, 11:19 PM #6
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All, the patriarchal/macho structure is still very strong in India and surrounding nations. Arranged marriages are still common, but less common than 100 years ago. It's just their culture. Wife beating and submission, a la Islam, is also very strong, even if they are not even Muslim. The main religions in India are, I believe, Hindu, followed by Christian.
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16-09-11, 12:43 PM #7
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Hey guys,
I come to know that our character are same through my friend....
thats y i askedCurrently on my way to Cloud Number 9.....
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19-09-11, 08:02 AM #8
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Hey guys Originally Posted by smartguy
She confirmed....gonna marry her soon...i am so happy....i deserved to get this girl...thanks for your valuable comments...Currently on my way to Cloud Number 9.....
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19-09-11, 08:59 AM #9
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This is so weird XD.
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19-09-11, 09:48 AM #10
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well at least his happy.....
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19-09-11, 09:51 AM #11
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Yeah, HE is... I wonder if we can say the same about her! Apparently, "he deserved to get her". Kind of like a new car or a vacation. :|
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19-09-11, 02:08 PM #12
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Why is it so? Originally Posted by searock
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19-09-11, 03:47 PM #13
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Congrats OP! I date a girl for 2 years and still not sure if I'm ready to marry her. And here you are ready to marry someone you've known only for 2 months. Good for you she said yes to you.
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lol @ your ignorance. And it's another American! lol If you were from India you'd be saying everyone in America is like a porn star, can fook anyone you like. Originally Posted by bulrush
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19-09-11, 06:13 PM #15
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Hm well I guess it's weird to me, not "in general". I find it very strange for two people to get engaged after only two months they know each other. And it sometimes seems like you're talking about her as if she were just another accomplishment in your life, like a promotion at work or something. It's just not my way of thinking : ) Originally Posted by smartguy
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