Talked to the McDonald's Girl, went disaster

[theVP]

I mentioned in an earlier posting of my crush on a Hispanic girl that works at McDonald's. I know, many will say it's only a physical attraction, I know nothing about her, etc. I'm old enough to know that is all true, but nonetheless, I've not been able think of anything but her, her mannerisms, her smile.

Well, I've finally resolved that today I would finally get up the guts to talk to her. So, I stopped at a local market and bought a bouquet of flowers and brought them in with me to this nearby McD's in a duffel bag along with some of my other belongings.

I left for there around 11 am to avoid the lunch rush. Once I was there, I felt self conscious about the flowers, so I left them in my bag at a nearby booth, and walked up to the counter to order a coke from an older heavy black woman at the nearest counter. "Maam, I'm curious about a woman that works back there. The one that wears the the blue ribbon in her hair. I have a friend that would like to know if she is single." I asked her.

The woman's face lit up and said something like "Ohhhh you mean Sylvia? Oh yesss, she is single and she is a sweet sweet girl. But don't you come telling me you've got a freind that wants to know. I see you comin in here every day checkin her out!"

I smiled as if to admit guilty as charged and asked her if I could talk to her for a minute. The woman start chuckling and yelled across the room to some worker "Edgar! Can you go get Sylvia! There's a handsome young man here to see her."

"Handsome, young, man." That introduction will hopefully work to my advantage I thought.

So, anyhow...here's what I had planned to say. Something like "Hey, I just wanted to say, I've seen you here several times, and I really like your smile. To be honest, I that's the main reason I come in here. I'll be leaving town shortly, and was just hoping if you would be interested in joining me for a dinner before I go"

It's not totally false, I'm going out of town for several days on work. I just wanted to have a plan so if I don't return, it'll look as if planned instead of leaving defeated. Also, it'd give her the comfort that some stalker won't be at her place of work forever more. Anyhow, I thought it would work.

Upon the black woman's call, the back of the McDonald's counter seemed to come to life. I heard all kinds of talk in Spanish going on back and forth among the workers, and then all kinds of workers from the back started coming towards the front to see who was summoning for Sylvia.

At this exact moment, I felt a hand gently hit me on the shoulder, and standing in line next to me was a guy I'll call Joe along with several new young sales reps. Joe's the regional sales manager from the company I work with. I guess he's a good enough guy, and he's competent at what he does. He tends to be an ass-kisser to myself and others in the company that he thinks could advance his career. "Heeey! What's up!" Then he starts gushing on about how excited he is about a company presentation I did two weeks ago.

The last thing in the world I would want is this already difficult and somewhat vulnerable and embarrassing act witnessed by so many people. Especially those that work for me.

My nervousness is now turning to panic as I can now see this girl emerging from the back with a big blushing smile along with some giggling female coworkers.

The older black woman then reiterated "Yes..Sylvia's one sweet girl, but she doesn't speak English"

So the girl was now at the counter facing me and says "Hi" in a really thick accent. The reps waiting in line started to notice for the first time, there was something more than ordering going on with myself and the McD's staff. All the staff, instead of minding their own business and preparing food or taking orders, stood there, as if waiting for me to say the punch line of a joke. And a punchline I did deliver!!

The nervousness and the realization that she would not be able to understand what I would say without it going through a bunch of nosy translators made me forget everything I had planned to say.
"Hi, I wanted to say, I like your um I like your...you." was the only thing that could come to my lips. The staff all broke into laughs and hoots. Sylvia stood there with that sweet smile as if she didn't understand but was waiting for someone to translate.
"OK. I gotta go. Thanks. Bye" I said and then I headed out the door with my coke without looking at anyone.
Yes, I forgot my bag with possessions in the booth too.

I'm not much of a drinker but I'm going to drink like a fish tonight. I'm feeling so relieved to Boston to work for a week.

I can't believe it went so bad and I feel so dumb. I think I like that girl even more, now when I think of how she looked at me and said hi. Did I mess this up beyond repair??

[surfhb]

Does she have your number?

[Wakeup]

Thank GOD you didn't give her the flowers. Bad move anyway, even if she could speak english because you're rewarding her before she's even done anything and it's well known and documented that people appreciate things a lot more when they've had to work for them

Don't let that set you back. If you still are interested in starting something up with someone that doesn't speak a word of english (geezus how'd she even get the job?) then just go back when you return from your biz trip and while you're away learn how to say "meet me for coffee/a drink/dinner after your shift in Spanish) Decent girls would not hold your shyness/awkwardness against you so if she did, then you're better off without her because you'd be mis-matched in the long run anyway. (even without taking the language barrier into consideration).

[Evo1114]

Ouch. Sounds like just about everything that could have gone wrong went wrong. That is a tough situation to ask somebody out. But, hey, at least it sounded like she wasn't offended by the gesture and maybe she would have been open to going out to dinner with you if not for her ridiculous coworkers.

I don't want to suggest stalking her, but now that she knows kind of who you are, you could always wait for her to get off work and approach her then. I would suggest asking somebody up front if it was alright to ask when she got off work so you don't have to sit in your car in a dark parking lot and try to smoothly approach her there. There would still be some whooping and hollering if you ask to speak with her privately, but at least you wouldn't have to say something that would embarrass yourself or her in front of all the workers and other customers. However, she doesn't speak English (just as I suspected), so it still might be difficult.

[bulrush]

"Ohhhh you mean Sylvia? Oh yesss, she is single and she is a sweet sweet girl. But don't you come telling me you've got a freind that wants to know. I see you comin in here every day checkin her out!"

Ah hahahaha! Busted!

Anyway, glad you didn't give her the flowers. Since she doesn't speak English, you can't possibly develop a relationship with her. Relationships require lots of communication. Sorry to hear about her language barriers. But, you didn't do anything wrong. Don't give up! Find someone who speaks English.

A young girl who doesn't speak English could be an illegal. Because if she was born in the US, she would learn English in the public schools. And many Hispanic countries teach English to the people who can afford private schools. So, she is not likely even middle class, and that may also be a barrier to you two. Also, you could have asked someone to translate, but they may have translated stuff wrongly, like:

"Hi how are you?" translated to "Take off your pants."
"It's nice to meet you" translated to "I want to pour mustard sauce on your genitals."

[Mathias]

Ah hahahaha! Busted!

Anyway, glad you didn't give her the flowers. Since she doesn't speak English, you can't possibly develop a relationship with her. Relationships require lots of communication. Sorry to hear about her language barriers. But, you didn't do anything wrong. Don't give up! Find someone who speaks English.

A young girl who doesn't speak English could be an illegal. Because if she was born in the US, she would learn English in the public schools. And many Hispanic countries teach English to the people who can afford private schools. So, she is not likely even middle class, and that may also be a barrier to you two. Also, you could have asked someone to translate, but they may have translated stuff wrongly, like:

"Hi how are you?" translated to "Take off your pants."
"It's nice to meet you" translated to "I want to pour mustard sauce on your genitals."

Meh.

I say learn some basic Spanish and pursue it. It's not like this has to be a long-term relationship, marriage, or anything of the sort. It sounds fun, and like a challenge - and it seems like she's open to it.

Live a little.

[JadenMia]

Meh.

I say learn some basic Spanish and pursue it. It's not like this has to be a long-term relationship, marriage, or anything of the sort. It sounds fun, and like a challenge - and it seems like she's open to it.

Live a little.

I agree with this, i went to live and work in spain a few years back. I loved it, i saw this guy at the public swimming pool, he was the best looking guy i had ever seen. Eventually we were spending everyday together, completely smitten. It was actually the most fun, sexy and connecting relationship i have ever had. I only spoke a few words of spanish and he didnt speak a word of english. When it came time to go home, i have never been so heartbroken in my life. Haha, i cried for days.

Go for it, just learn a few words, ask her for coffee and dont run out this time. She definitely sounded like she was open to it.. Find a quiet time to go in, ask her in not such a public surrounding.. Im sure you could pull her off to the side or something. And have fun

[bulrush]

Yes, but if you break up with her, all her friends will tell her you used her. That's the breaks for being successful.

[Mathias]

Yes, but if you break up with her, all her friends will tell her you used her. That's the breaks for being successful.

That's just the breaks when you break up. It happens.

[upandaway]

Damn man, I am sorry to hear things went so badly. I give you much props for getting up the courage though! I hope this experience won't stop you from reaching out to the next women you are intrigued by.

[searock]

I think she seemed happy of your attentions, so I say you should try again Perhaps talk to her in private, as other posters have suggested, wait for her after work or something. Language is not that much of a problem, there are many ways to communicate and language is just one of them, besides you can learn a bit of spanish and she can definitely learn some english (she lives in an english speaking country), so it's not really an issue. That was so romantic and brave of you ^^ Definitely get in touch with her again : ).

[Nice Lover Boy]

Dam co-workers! I'd say, I would really like to see a picture of this spanish girl you are trying to pursue. So much work and humiliation to get nothing means you have to work harder and your excuse of "going out of town" is still valid.

[mwahahaha]

Youre in mcds and only leave with a coke?
Whats wrong with you dude?
Get a burger at least ffs. homo
Btw, its not "black woman" its "coloured chick" . litlle racist ma man.
no harm no foul.