Am I just being selfish?

[neverhappy]

I have ridiculous problem and I know how silly it sounds but I just don't know what to do about it..one of my male friends recently told me that he likes me as more than a friend. I absolutely adore him as a friend and would do anything for him but I just don't have romantic feelings toward him. I told him straight out I didn't feel the same way because I don't want to lead him on. The problem is we work together and now things between us feel so awkward where as we used to have a good laugh together. This is the 3rd of my male friends to say he fancies me within the last 2 years and I'm getting a bit fed up because I hate hurting my friends. I have asked other friends if I do anything to encourage them but they all say I treat everyone the same regardless of whether they are male or female. This is where I am going to sound truly horrible - there is absolutely nothing wrong with any of these guys, they are everything a girl could wish for in a boyfriend but I'm just not attracted to them. There is one guy I am really into but he's holding back because of the friend in work..I just feel like every guy but the one I actually want fancies me..maybe its my bad karma for not falling for the ones who do want me...

[James Banes]

You need to smile and start talking to the guy you do like more. Don't worry about special conversation; just talk about whatever. Sooner or later, you'll find out if he's interested in you.

[mwahahaha]

Sounds to me like you have a deep underlying psychological problem. Rejecting the men who want you and obsessing over the only one that doesnt.
Luckilly , its an easy problem to overcome.
Ive never seen a psychological problem that cant beaten by a hearty 18 holes. After this (assuming you break par) all these trouble will feel insignificant, and you ll be ready to take on the world.
Word of warning tho. Dont get drunk and total your ride ona street light, like the great tiger. He hasnt won a major since, lol.

[devonbrown]

If you aren't attracted to the guy, then you aren't attracted to him. Not much you can do about that.

As for the guy you like, don't get so caught up in him. Keep your options open. Maybe you will find that you are rejecting other guys because you are too hung up on the one guy. Maybe not, but it is a possibility.

And don't get frustrated when guy friends fall for you. Guys are just as confused about dating as women are, and it is quite possible that some will confuse friendliness for more than that at some point.

Good luck.

[bulrush]

There are plenty of very happy couples who really hated each other on their first dates. But they gave a second date a chance, and a third, and now they cannot believe they are so happy. So not all relationships start out like you expect.

They also say you should marry your best friend for a successful marriage. Once you have the friendship, the love and passion will grow in time. Eventually the passion, and hormones, will fade away, and what are you left with? Nothing or friendship? You decide. You have to think ahead to who you want to be with when you are 70 years old. Some guy you have no more passion with (but started out hot) or your best friend.