Fetish's (whats normal, what isnt?)

[surfhb]

I also wanna express dismay at the above poster. First surf uses sarcasm to express his disgust for the fetish. Then, when I agree with him, I get told to go **** myself because it's perfectly healthy all of a sudden.

Both surf and alexandra need psychiatric help for their mood swings and constant changes of opinion.

Not even little man. Fantasizing about sex with your mother means there might be some under lying issues.....much more so than thinking of having sex with older women. If you want to get your rocks off to naked shots of your mother....go for it! Yeah...the guy may need help but hes not sick and not a weirdo. Who are we to say what sexy. Nice try though Dickhead

The bottom line is you judge other who are different than you and this makes you an instant asshole! Hows it feel? Real proud of ya!

[alexandraboo]

I also wanna express dismay at the above poster. First surf uses sarcasm to express his disgust for the fetish. Then, when I agree with him, I get told to go **** myself because it's perfectly healthy all of a sudden.

Both surf and alexandra need psychiatric help for their mood swings and constant changes of opinion.

Lol, shut the hell up, do not even insult me, Dont like the thread dont comment. Idiot.

[Wakeup]

The bottom line is you judge other who are different than you and this makes you an instant asshole! Hows it feel? Real proud of ya!

Everyone judges someone else at one time or another.. even you, in fact you're judging James right now.

[alexandraboo]

Not even little man. Fantasizing about sex with your mother means there might be some under lying issues.....much more so than thinking of having sex with older women. If you want to get your rocks off to naked shots of your mother....go for it! Yeah...the guy may need help but hes not sick and not a weirdo. Who are we to say what sexy. Nice try though Dickhead

The bottom line is you judge other who are different than you and this makes you an instant asshole! Hows it feel? Real proud of ya!

James bane is just butt hurt no one agrees with him LOL

[Mathias]

Yes, other men do. That's why the chick in the video your man watches caters to that fetish. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if Mathias and surfphb didn't cater to those fetishes.

I bet you ask that question hoping it's normal. If it's widespread then you might feel there's nothing to fear. Cheating is widespread too. There, you have nothing to fear.

You have some severe logic issues.

Yes, I said issues. No, you don't need psychiatric help. Maybe just getting a clue will work.

[Wakeup]

James bane is just butt hurt no one agrees with him LOL

Honey, everytime you get laid and feel weird/jealous/frightened/ that your guy is thinking about screwing an old lady you are judging him. Laughing at others who have issue with what your man does is judging also.

So: What will you do Alexandraboo to get yourself in the right frame of mind to totally accept your bf's fetish and be able to live happily with the knowledge he has given you about himself?

I don't care how open minded you (the general you) are, I suspect that you cringed a little when you read that he has fantasies about mother sex. It's not mainstream, it's going to be judged somewhat by those who find vanilla hetro sex the norm.

[leoben]

Going back to your original question, I do think it's normal for guys who had a bad relationship with their mother growing up to have some kind of older woman fantasy. It doesn't mean they actually want to sleep with mom, just trying to replace something that was missing.

I can't say I share your boyfriends exact fetish, but to this day nothing drives me crazier then the thought of my friend's mother who was actually loving towards me.

He is a great father, and he trusted me to not judge him. I think it says a lot, since most men suffering from the same issue would probably not come forward and tell their partner about it!

You're right. If he didn't love and want to be with you then he would be out sleeping with an authoritative older woman, not talking honestly about it and trying to work it into the bedroom.

[shpadoinklejoe]

Fetishes are subjective, i think all legal fetishes are normal, and in some cases they are just a phase, after he fulfills his fantasy he might drop that one and go to the next

[bulrush]

First, when it comes to sex, society tries to define what is "normal", but really, there is no "normal". Sometimes there are things that are forced, and hurt people. Those things are bad. However, some people volunteer to be hurt, and that is ok because it is consensual. It's odd, but consensual. Some people link pain to sexual arousal. And so, with sex, there is "consensual" and "non-consensual". There is no "normal" or "abnormal".

I just need something to calm my mind about it.

For some, a fetish is a passing interest, for others, a lifelong pursuit. For some, they will try the fetish until they are tired of it, then their interest passes on to something else. Men are very curious about sex, and tend to like trying new things. In the context of your relationship, let him have his porn and see if he gets tired of it. Ask him to watch it, encourage him to watch it, and see if he gets tired of it.

My point is, I think you are nervous of what society will think of you as a person, or you two as a couple. So stop letting someone else define who you are and what you should do.

Other people on [url]www.fetlife.com[/url] (free account) will be able to answer your question better than I. On Fetlife it's all about sex and kink, but they can discuss it in a mature, informed way. Be warned, with a free account you can see pictures, and many are very graphic. Some even caught me off guard. There is probably a discussion group about younger men with mature women, or mother figures.

I don't know why this is called an Oedipal complex, because Oedipus did NOT know he was sleeping with his mother.

[James Banes]

You have some severe logic issues.

Yes, I said issues. No, you don't need psychiatric help. Maybe just getting a clue will work.

Exactly what type of clue do you wish for me to get?

Honey, everytime you get laid and feel weird/jealous/frightened/ that your guy is thinking about screwing an old lady you are judging him. Laughing at others who have issue with what your man does is judging also.

So: What will you do Alexandraboo to get yourself in the right frame of mind to totally accept your bf's fetish and be able to live happily with the knowledge he has given you about himself?

I don't care how open minded you (the general you) are, I suspect that you cringed a little when you read that he has fantasies about mother sex. It's not mainstream, it's going to be judged somewhat by those who find vanilla hetro sex the norm.

The thing is she judged it the same way I did. Her original post says she has a problem with it. When I agreed with her and surf, they did a 180. Do these two have a problem with me specifically? Or is this the way these two always act? Do they always get disagreeable with people who agree with them? Whatever the case, I know I am not the one who needs psychiatric help here.

[Wakeup]

Consider yourself having been through the initiation stage of Loveforum.net. Just smile and keep walking..

[James Banes]

I kinda get tired of the posters who don't say what they did though. Alotta times people ask for help, it's given, then there's no response. And I'm left wondering what mode of action the OP took.

[Wakeup]

Meh... they don't listen to what they read half the time anyway, they just listen to what they want to hear and often ignore the rest (lots of times to their own detriment). That's okay though because no one does the hard stuff until they're totally ready to (or have no other choice) anyway and then they look back and think "gee I wish I had listened." Lesson learned in their own good time.

[James Banes]

I gotta question for all these folks who say this fetish is okay: would they be willing to put any the info that they have mommy fantasies, scat porn, vomit porn on facebook for their friends, family, and enmployers to see?

I doubt it.

[Mathias]

I gotta question for all these folks who say this fetish is okay: would they be willing to put any the info that they have mommy fantasies, scat porn, vomit porn on facebook for their friends, family, and enmployers to see?

I doubt it.

You really don't see how you're failing at logic here?

I'll spell it out for you. You're the one who introduced scat and vomit stuff into this thread. Then, you immediately turned the argument to bash on those, and threw the original subject (mature woman fantasies) as an equivalent to that.

Then, you completely ripped those apart. You're better than this. Right now, it looks like you're just trying to win the thread, rather than actually contributing. Come on.