Didn't feel like I had too.
Generally speaking, I don't understand why a guy should pay everything for a girl nowadays. OK, if the guy is working and making money and the girl no, it is quite logical; but if the situation were the opposite, it would be equally logical that the girl would pay for the guy, in my view.
That idea of a 'gentleman' is completely old-fashioned, in my view.
Regards this specific case......... he is making more money than you, but he has also more spendings, so it is a bit difficult to know which the most fair option is. Perhaps a solution in between would be that you paid a night and he paid the next one, but if you have less money, you might invite him to cheaper restaurants, etc.
Haven't read the whole thread because I am too busy laughing at whatever douche called wake up a limp dicked prick. How is that limp dick of yours wake up? And where do you hide it? Next to your cervix? LMAO!!!
Now to read the rest of the thread, beyond half way through page one...
'People are never perfect but love can be. People waste time looking for the perfect lover rather than creating the perfect love' - Princess Leigh-Cheri from Still Life With Woodpecker.
Oh, I see your problem. You think this is ONE day/outing. Actually, I envision the coffee, lunch, hike, dinner as being separate dates. That means we are at 4 dates by the time he is paying for dinner. I realize you don't know me, but in my case, only a fraction of my dates ever made it to #3. This is going back a long time, mind, but I don't see that times have changed all that much.
FWIW, I have gone out with male friends for lunch or outings (its the closest I can presently relate to a date). They ALL offer to pay my way. Perhaps its just the kind of men they are, very gentlemanly. FWIW, I do reciprocate (or in one case I paid for dinner since he paid for our outing). But it actually makes them uncomfortable. So, what does a lady do in such a situation? Insist to pay my portion and embarrass everyone, spoiling the lunch/outing?
My solution is to let them pay, and then I reciprocate w/something I know they value (usually a bottle of something) when we next visit. I have found that I have to be sneaky paying for lunch (i.e. paying ahead of time) and that is embarrassing to the men, as I said.
In the end, its only money and I think you are far too hung up on it. Your concern about it would be a large red flag for me, as I said. If we were dating, I'd pay my share and then you'd never hear from me again. Something to think about, considering the kind of person you see to attract.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Well, you live in Surrey. In California, the housing prices around Vash's area are like buying a house around UBC, if that helps. Even 2 profs both making 100K+ have trouble buying a house in that area.
@ Vash, Surrey is not one of the nicer areas of Vancouver. Think East LA (with slightly less crime, but getting there).
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
I'll concur! 100K doesnt mean shit in LA !
Last edited by scott green; 11-10-11 at 06:56 AM.
I'm normally able to understand how Vash/Indi reach certain conclusions, but I'm at a bit of a loss, here.
As a male, I don't want to pay for a girl unless I already like her; apparently, I'm supposed to pay to find out whether or not I like her. This is problematic.
I have nothing against paying at all, I just find it a bit degrading to women (and relationships in general) that I'm essentially paying a small amount of money for the increase in probability that I'll sleep with her. Even if it's $2 for a coffee somewhere, don't you find that bothersome?
I think this traditional method of connecting is a bit disgusting. Money always seems to destroy whatever it touches.