Help understanding the girls mind

[awesomeopposum]

We were so close. she told me everything, told me things she never told her best friends, and always came to me. Our affection grew and we showed so much of it to each other. We Kissed, made out, and slept in the same bed all on several occasions. Shes someone who has tor really get to know a guy, and for a long time before doing anything with him. We have never dated which is why we stopped the kissing and sleeping together so we can do that when we are dating. She says she wants to be friends and do friend things until we are ready to date. Now none of that is there, the kissing and sleeping stopped a month ago and the affection slowed down and is now nothing shortly after.

One thing is she just started college, before we even got close she said she wasn't wanting a relationship during college, at least until she got comfortable with it. Even when we were close she mentioned this a few times. So it does make sense as to why we cut those things out, because she wants to concentrate on studies, and because it wasn't right doing relationship stuff just as friends.

However it seems odd that she can suppress so much feelings for me to concentrate on school. I mean I don't even get the compliments anymore, and she doesn't look at me the same way. She may be holding so much back just so the relationship stuff doesn't start again which we don't want right now, but still. She is very honest and whenever I mention I like her, and I still think she likes me, she has never rebutted it and said she doesn't have feelings for me, she also tells me not to worry and just see where it goes.

Am I losing her, or should I just believe that she just wants to concentrate on her studies?

[KatrinasFantasy]

This is definitely a tough one. College is an entirely different realm. I assume, being a college student myself, that she told you all of this because she wants her freedom. She wants to date several guys and get the "college experience". I would believe her, if I were you. It seems that she is trying to push you away emotionally so that you don't remain so attached. I think that you should date other girls (date, not have girlfriends). If you do that, then she will not feel that you are so attached to her and she will want to open up to you more emotionally.

I hope that helps.

[awesomeopposum]

I should add it isn't a typical "college" It is a class taught at a actual business. So no massive school, or tons of classrooms. I think she might be holding back to save both of us the emotional trauma of waiting. I mean you just don't drop your feelings instantly when your that close right? She isn't the type to run around dating a bunch of guys either. She has had one bf and it took her a year to decide to date him.