Why do guys watch porn when they have a gf? And why does it upset gf? :O

[smackie9]

So it's actually a choice? Shouldn't a man naturally prefer, on a purely physical level, making love to his SO (therefore a woman he finds desirable) rather than masturbating to porn?

If it's "selfish" that some men prefer the latter over the former, it sort of means that those men actually physically prefer the latter. Is this normal/common?

All what you read on here is a matter of opinion. Everyone has their own view, like "selfishness", "lazy lover", "cheating", "fetish", "fantasy", "inadequate", "unsatisfied", "morally wrong", "addicted", "a quick release" "variety" etc. There isn't one explanation why men do it. In my opinion, is that the majority of men out there do prefer the real deal. You have nothing to worry about, your bf is normal. If you really want to know, talk to your bf about it, when he is ready to.....ask for HIS own opinion. A bunch of stranger can only guess.

[bulrush]

Porn is making men suck in bed due to impotence.

Yes, too much porn is bad. I really prefer my girlfriend. We are very compatible. But you make it sounds like men are the ONLY problem. And I would disagree about that.

I've heard a few bad things about trends for people currently in their 20s. Businesses complain they come out of college but still aren't educated. They are not dedicated to their work. They don't take initiative. They are lazy. They don't have ideas. They work only to party on the weekends. They lack self control (kind of links to the porn issue, and drug use, like ecstasy, I think is more common with young people.)

[searock]

All what you read on here is a matter of opinion. Everyone has their own view, like "selfishness", "lazy lover", "cheating", "fetish", "fantasy", "inadequate", "unsatisfied", "morally wrong", "addicted", "a quick release" "variety" etc. There isn't one explanation why men do it. In my opinion, is that the majority of men out there do prefer the real deal. You have nothing to worry about, your bf is normal. If you really want to know, talk to your bf about it, when he is ready to.....ask for HIS own opinion. A bunch of stranger can only guess.

I was just wondering whether some men think that it's normal/common for men to physically enjoy masturbating to porn more (on average) than having sex with their SO.

[smackie9]

Yes, too much porn is bad. I really prefer my girlfriend. We are very compatible. But you make it sounds like men are the ONLY problem. And I would disagree about that.

I've heard a few bad things about trends for people currently in their 20s. Businesses complain they come out of college but still aren't educated. They are not dedicated to their work. They don't take initiative. They are lazy. They don't have ideas. They work only to party on the weekends. They lack self control (kind of links to the porn issue, and drug use, like ecstasy, I think is more common with young people.)

"The world is passing through troubled times. The young people of
today think of nothing but themselves. They have no reverence for
parents or old age. They are impatient of all restraint. They talk as
if they knew everything, and what passes for wisdom with us is
foolishness with them. As for the girls, they are forward, immodest
and unladylike in speech, behavior and dress."

Who wrote that, and when do you think it was written?... it is an
extract from a sermon preached by Peter the Hermit in A.D. 1274!


The youth of today is no different with youth from centuries ago and the older more mature that complain about them. Porn has been around since ancient times. Then it is seen in art object such as jugs, and worshiped gods, frescoes, and graffiti on Roman buildings. In the Victorian age there were flip cards, postcards and photographs. Dear friends there is nothing new under the sun, human nature is still the same, the only difference is technology has given us better access to it.

[smackie9]

I was just wondering whether some men think that it's normal/common for men to physically enjoy masturbating to porn more (on average) than having sex with their SO.

I was told no. Masturbation is just convenient when having the other isn't, especially when there's a house full of kids, or visiting guests, or your partner says "no not now honey I have a headache".

[searock]

I was told no. Masturbation is just convenient when having the other isn't, especially when there's a house full of kids, or visiting guests, or your partner says "no not now honey I have a headache".

That's what I believed too, before reading the post by romantic_guy in which he says that he thinks it's selfish for some men to pick porn over their partners.

Maybe some men physically enjoy masturbation to porn more than actual sex?

[smackie9]

No, I was told it's just different not better....variety is the spice of life.

[Yet another guy]

Maybe some men physically enjoy masturbation to porn more than actual sex?

I've never had an orgasm with a girl but I can always get one by masturbating. So, physically I enjoy it more.
But it doesn't compare with the real thing emotionally or psychically.
Luckily, I don't have to choose between them since I have higher sex drive than any girl I've met.

[Illusional]

well if you had lesbian sex in front of him, then he wouldn't have the need to watch lesbian porn right?

raverboy

[vashti]

That's what I believed too, before reading the post by romantic_guy in which he says that he thinks it's selfish for some men to pick porn over their partners.

I agree with him. (assuming their partner is interested in having sex, anyway.)

[Gypsybell]

Porn is the difference between: Exclusive, exquisite quality in a lover(One who doesn't need a Hollywood script for ideas, and prefers to invent what a woman needs on the job, according to her unique desires, or EVEN devined by her unfeigned sighs of total satisfaction...).... and a supermarket slob with a dog eared manual, alias,' The Porno Special', recommended by his mate's at the boozer, as a 'best buzz, sure bet', for the brain dead and sensually challenged yobo in the wham bam, thanku Mam mentality bracket.

Yeah, mate, Whatever turns you on, that's your privelege, but let's leave it in the gutter where it belongs!Andlet the wee willie wankers refrain from... choke...vomit...elevating their deficiencies to an ART FORM! Orexpecting their girlfriends to be 'understanding' about their 'need for variety' when they have been subjecting women to inadequate stimulation of their sensual zones (which get interpreted in the brain.. )for centuries. And now they want an actor to do it for them! God help them! it's SLACK gentlemen! LAZY! We have test tubes and cloning on the rise, If you don't want to become redundant altogether, better lift your game!

[IndiReloaded]

Porn is making men suck in bed due to impotence.

[url=http://articles.businessinsider.com/2011-10-26/news/30323512_1_libido-sexual-enhancement-dopamine]Porn Is Ruining The Sex Lives Of An Entire Generation - Business Insider[/url]

That's fine. We need to decrease our global population anyway. Send a free feed to india and china.

[Lipp]

Copied what I said in a similar thread a couple of months back.
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Okay, look.

Porn+Masturbation = Habitual, minimal time spent for low-effort relief, minor enjoyment, 'mood' is not as important, zero intimacy, privacy is important.

Sex = Spontaneous, takes time and effort, more enjoyable, 'mood' is important, lots of intimacy.

Single, couple or married, guys still tend to watch porn from time to time, and as I clarify above, it's not necessarily because the sex life is insufficient, the two just fulfill needs that only sometimes overlap, and stressful working lives can be serious mood killers.

[searock]

Porn+Masturbation = Habitual, minimal time spent for low-effort relief, minor enjoyment, 'mood' is not as important, zero intimacy, privacy is important.

Sex = Spontaneous, takes time and effort, more enjoyable, 'mood' is important, lots of intimacy.

Single, couple or married, guys still tend to watch porn from time to time, and as I clarify above, it's not necessarily because the sex life is insufficient, the two just fulfill needs that only sometimes overlap, and stressful working lives can be serious mood killers.

As a female, I completely agree with this. In two senses:
1) the two equations (minus the "porn" part - I tend to rely on my imagination) work for me as a female;
2) I think the two equations work for the guys as well. Including the fact that sex is "more enjoyable". Which is why I was a bit perplexed when I read that preferring porn over sex is "selfish". It somehow implies that for some men porn+masturbation is more enjoyable than sex. I don't quite understand it.

[Yet another guy]

Orexpecting their girlfriends to be 'understanding' about their 'need for variety' when they have been subjecting women to inadequate stimulation of their sensual zones (which get interpreted in the brain.. )for centuries.

I watch porn - and I probably would still watch it sometimes even if I was in a relationship and could get sex every day for the reason I've stated in an earlier reply which is not 'need of variety'. Despite watching porn however, I've not been subjecting any women to inadequate stimulation of their sensual zones for centuries - I've never heard complaints at least. In fact, "what are your erogenic zones" is one of the first questions I ask a girl if I may have a chance to have sex with her. For some reason, most women aren't smart enough to tell what they want unless (sometimes even if) you ask.