Why do guys watch porn when they have a gf? And why does it upset gf? :O

[searock]

Human sexuality is far more complicated than trivial rules like "you have to think about me at least sometimes."

Of course it is, but it still strikes me as odd if a guy in a healthy relationship doesn't think about his SO when he masturbates.

[searock]

You don't think it's healthy because that behavior doesn't elicit the motives you have idealized.

It's a perfectly normal and healthy response for a man to see an attractive woman (or vice versa) and have sexual desires. That is the facet that porn taps into, and there's nothing wrong with that. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you won't be sexually attracted to attractive people anymore; it means that you have made a commitment to be in an exclusive relationship with certain boundaries.

I just think it's odd for a man in a healthy relationship to not think about his SO at all when masturbating. I know it's normal to think about other things/people as well, that's not my point.

[KingZ]

You don't think it's healthy because that behavior doesn't elicit the motives you have idealized. That's a pretty subjective belief, apparently.

It's a perfectly normal and healthy response for a man to see an attractive woman (or vice versa) and have sexual desires. That is the facet that porn taps into, and there's nothing wrong with that. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you won't be sexually attracted to attractive people anymore; it means that you have made a commitment to be in an exclusive relationship with certain boundaries.

What the fu​ck is it with you? Anytime someone says anything, you retort with a completely irrelevant point and it's embarrassing for everyone involved.

She's just saying that when a man masturbates, he should occasionally think about the girl he's with. That's all.

This is probably too complicated to understand because you wouldn't ever have a sexual relationship with anyone you were attracted to, seeing as they all have bulging eyes from thyroid problems. Kill yourself.

[romantic_guy]

lulz.


Be married to someone for 10 years and then tell me you think of him when you masturbate.

I have been married for 39 years and I think of my wife when I masturbate. I think of the time we were dating as teenagers, I think of her in a hot pair of short-shorts, I think of the great sex we had on our 39th anniversary last summer in the Riviera Maya. I masturbate while looking at the nude pics I have of her and the homemade sex vids we have of us. She is HOT.

[KingZ]

Nobody wants to hear about your wrinkle-sex, old man.

(But seriously, you're an anomaly.)

[searock]

She's just saying that when a man masturbates, he should occasionally think about the girl he's with. That's all.

This exactly : ). I think it should come natural to him, if he's in a healthy relationship.

[Lipp]

Guys are visual creatures.

If your problem is with him looking at some stranger online, just give him so naughty pics of yourself for him to use. Problem solved.

[searock]

I got it, but I disagree.

I think I see where the confusion is coming from, now. The second part of my previous post was in response to the original topic and I didn't quote it.

Thing is, I haven't idealized any "motives" that I know of. Here's what I think:
a guy is in a healthy relationship -> his SO is one of the "things" (if not the thing) that turn him on the most -> he naturally thinks about her (as well as other things) when he masturbates, because it turns him on.
At least that's how it works for me, as a female.

[searock]

Guys are visual creatures.

If your problem is with him looking at some stranger online, just give him so naughty pics of yourself for him to use. Problem solved.

I think the OP's problem is that although he has naughty pictures of her, he still prefers to watch porn when he masturbates.

[KingZ]

If you're embarrassed, just do what Kurt Kobain did.

Take a bath with your toaster.

You're repetitive and unoriginal. Can't you come up with better ways to try to be me?

[rafterman]

you're repetitive and unoriginal. Can't you come up with better ways to try to be me?

stfu
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[rafterman]

I could totally believe that, cos they masturbating an everytime they masturbate that's more of their semen down the drain, an if they chronically masturbate, that's prob how why they run outta the stuff an therefore can't have kids no more cos they wasted it all masturbating. That's why I said all masturbation is bad an wrong. It's common sense.

WTF does it matter to you, its not as if you're going to swallow it you, bible bashing freak show.

[Yet another guy]

a guy is in a healthy relationship -> his SO is one of the "things" (if not the thing) that turn him on the most

I find it delusional to think that everybody or even that most people end up with someone whom they find most attractive sexually. Even the attractive people who have more than one option to choose from are limited more or less to their local area. They won't ever meet everyone. Attractive people gravitate towards a career in porn. I would find it amazing if I ever was aquainted with someone more attractive than say any of my top 10 favourite porn stars. Sure, people have different tastes and might not be turned on by most people in porn. Most likely they'll still find most attractive people among celebrities. The point is, it's very unlikely that anyones social circle includes the people whom they find the most attractive. Very attractive or lucky people might have a SO who is the most attractive among their social circle. If their preferences are peculiar, they might even find them more attractive than celebrities or porn stars. I believe this situation is quite rare but even then, there's still someone more attractive out there that they just haven't met (ok, this is besides the point since no one is going to think about people they haven't ever met).

As a guy, when I masturbate, most of my arousal comes from sensory stimulation. Sure my imagination is essential as well but what I think about is sex. And perhaps something more complex depending on what I'm watching. I don't think about people.

[bulrush]

Of course it is, but it still strikes me as odd if a guy in a healthy relationship doesn't think about his SO when he masturbates.

Several people on this thread have explained that guys like variety, but you still don't get it. It doesn't mean the guy doesn't love their gf, it's just the way guys are wired. Guys are wired to impregnate as many females as possible as quickly as possible. Thus, the need for variety in men has survived evolution. Or Jeebus made you do it, whatever you want to believe.

For various reasons, almost NO guy ends up with their physically ideal mate. That's just the way it is. So they are always finding someone else attractive. Doesn't mean they don't love or aren't committed to their gf.

[Lovable]

Yes, it is VERY wrong. Sex should be about love, not abuse. It should be a statement of how much you love someone that you want to MAKE LOVE with them. That's why it's called making love. There is NOTHING loving about a man raping a womans anus (the place where her poop comes out) and depositing his semen (the thing God gave man to be able to produce an innocent little child) into her bowels. It's revolting! Also, The Bible says that if a man was to sodomise someone (it doesnt matter if it is a man or woman) then BOTH of them will goto Hell, because it is a sick perversion and against God. It is a detestable act in putting semen into someones bowels, it is complete disrespect to God that something that should be used to create a life is dumped into the bowels with the rest of the human waste.

“…Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites (people who indulge in anal sodomy), nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortion ers will inherit the kingdom of God” (1 Corinthians 6:9-10).

Can you please take your BIBLE THUMPING ASS somewhere else where the people actually believe & BUY in to your bullshit!! I'm so tired of reading your ramblings...there are plenty of other forums that will take your crazy rambling preaching nonsense, NOT HERE!! Mods can we see DEAD after this 1's name soon...lol