New, Broken Hearted Memv

[eoin]

Hi there, New Member from London England,


I joined this forum, Because I had My heart broken last week, And Im finding it hard, I work with the person, and the guy she lied to me about, and Im finding it really hard, I just keep getting a Knot in my stomach when ever I see them, witch is every day


Was wondering if anyone had any tips

[Gypsybell]

Keep talking to people on here so that at least you have some outlet for your feelings. Tell us more about your situation. everyone will come on board once they see you are in need. Most of us have experienced emotional pain and breakups. It is never easy and no one has cut and dried methods of survival. You just have to get through one day at a time and try to distance youself as much as possible by maintaining work ethics and not letting it demoralize you in public.

My Dad always said 'WHEN LIFE KICKS YOU IN THE GUTS, LET YOUR PRIDE STAND YOU TALL'. So vent only here or outside of your workplace. Make yourself concentrate on your work and do it well. Don't give anyone the satisfaction of seeing how you feel and feeding work gossip. Be seen with another girl as soon as possible (even if you have to bribe a friend, and depending on your job, get her to send you cards, messages emails or even flowers! or send them to yourself!)

salvage your pride and ' S**t on them from a great height' is my adaptation of dad's gem of wisdom.

Meanwhile, go hunting for a genuine girl to take your mind off your misery. It doesn't have to be a hunt for true love, but another prevalent saying among the heartbroken is' THE BEST WAY TO GET OVER ONE GIRL IS TO GO OUT AND GET ANOTHER'. with all the online dating options these days it doesn't even have to be a physical set up, just so long as you find another female to distract you from the present feeling of lonely doom. It will pass. minimise the scarring, by not dwelling on what is done and be a man she can't hurt any more. At least make her think she's the loser and you're over it. That smarts.

[ices]

Keep talking to people on here so that at least you have some outlet for your feelings. Tell us more about your situation. everyone will come on board once they see you are in need. Most of us have experienced emotional pain and breakups. It is never easy and no one has cut and dried methods of survival. You just have to get through one day at a time and try to distance youself as much as possible by maintaining work ethics and not letting it demoralize you in public.

My Dad always said 'WHEN LIFE KICKS YOU IN THE GUTS, LET YOUR PRIDE STAND YOU TALL'. So vent only here or outside of your workplace. Make yourself concentrate on your work and do it well. Don't give anyone the satisfaction of seeing how you feel and feeding work gossip. Be seen with another girl as soon as possible (even if you have to bribe a friend, and depending on your job, get her to send you cards, messages emails or even flowers! or send them to yourself!)

salvage your pride and ' S**t on them from a great height' is my adaptation of dad's gem of wisdom.

Meanwhile, go hunting for a genuine girl to take your mind off your misery. It doesn't have to be a hunt for true love, but another prevalent saying among the heartbroken is' THE BEST WAY TO GET OVER ONE GIRL IS TO GO OUT AND GET ANOTHER'. with all the online dating options these days it doesn't even have to be a physical set up, just so long as you find another female to distract you from the present feeling of lonely doom. It will pass. minimise the scarring, by not dwelling on what is done and be a man she can't hurt any more. At least make her think she's the loser and you're over it. That smarts.

I agree with most of what you are suggesting to the op, but I do not agree that he should go and hurt another person, just because he has been hurt.