i can't talk to this girl...

[shadower4]

I have liked her since 8th grade but never could talk to her. I figured when i was a freshman i would have classes with her in the future and i would make my move then , but i never had any classes with her.During the end of the year i had the perfect opportunity to talk to her but i didn't. Im in college now and i see her twice a week sitting on a bench waiting for her ride to pick her up and for the past 2 month have wanted to talk to her but i keep chickening out. Today i chickened out again after telling my self i would do it for sure .... i had the perfect opportunity .i passed her and my mouth just wouldn't open. She sat down and i was around the corner yelling in my head DO IT!! WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO LOSE!! So i walked by her again and almost said hi but my mouth wouldn't open so i once again walked by and sat on a bench near hers and just looked at her until her ride came... ( she did not notice i was looking at her). I know i sound like a stalker now... and i know a lot of you people are going to be like MAN UP YOU loser YOUR NOT READY TO HAVE A GIRL FRIEND! I felt so confident i could do it untill the time came and i chickened out... How can i force my self to just do it? i feel like im going parachuting and my mind is saying it's safe , jump out of the plan, but my body wont let me. I hate my self for being such a whimp... Any advice... or am i just doomed to be a loner for the rest of my life because of my lameness.......

[smackie9]

We already did give you advice...there is no other way around it, you have to pluck up some courage and talk to her.

[shadower4]

i knew it would rain today and she would be sitting on the bench near the building for shetler. My car was getting fixed so i had to wait at the bench next to the one she was at to wait for my ride to come. We were alone about 8 feet apart it was all going perfectly as i planed it... I had about 10-15 mins to talk to her but my mouth would not open no matter how hard i tried. It felt like i was playing russian rulet and my body wouldn't let me pull the trigger. SO i blew it and now have come to the realization no matter how hard i try my body wont listen to my mind and i wont be able to talk to her. So i was thinking of writing a letter to her and maybe droping it on her lap when i walk by. If i can't even manage to do that then i will just give it to a friend to give to her. What do you think of this idea? keep in mind she might not even remember who i am and im like a complete stranger to her. Think she would be weirded out by a stranger giving her a love letter? In the letter i would include my cell # I have got to put a end to this madness.

[deathper]

It would be better if you tell her by yourself...A letter is not a good idea...You have to find the courage to tell her, there is no other way...I'm sure you can overcome it and talk to her!!

[Noslen09]

Could you imagine someone walking by and dropping a letter in your lap? And then the letter has all sorts of implications behind the words... wtf?!

Do not give her a letter. Bottom line. Just gather up the courage and talk to her. There's nothing else to do.

If she is your first and only crush and you've never dated anyone before, I know this will be really nerve-tingling. Just approach her about a relatively neutral subject. Ask her for a bit of help on homework or something. Talk about class, and then gradually move on from there.

[Shivers]

Although i dont think any form other than talking is the way to go, you could give/drop her a note, JUST a note, not a letter.

Saying something like " i choke up every time i try to talk to you"

[Ea Scarlet]

Just stare her always, she will probably approach you if you do.