Situation with the girl at work I have fallen for.

[Manchester90]

Clear thanks

[Cerby]

- Do I owe it to myself to tell her how I feel if the moment is right?
- Or will that mean she will cut ties and friendship with me if she thinks I really like her?
- She has never cheated on her BF before but everyone gets drunk, is she really happy? Does she like me?
- Living with someone for 5 years they are very far down the road, should I somehow try and forget it and move on? It's hard seeing her everyday.
- Do you think the guy from work will let it out, hopefully he just kind of forgets in time and nothing is said?
- God forbid a rumour starts and she thinks I have said something should I just be totally honest about what's happend?

Thanks so much for taking the time to help. I am screwing. PS we are both early 30s and I don't know her BF.

-no, she did the right thing to put it behind you two, you shouldn't bring it up with her again
-she might, she is in a relationship and a co-worker, if she feels uncomfortable with you she might cut ties
-she made a drunk mistake, it doesn't mean she isn't happy or likes you, it means she is a bit of an idiot or maybe has some insecurities in her relationship
-yes, move on
-No clue, if he lets it out oh well, life sucks sometimes, but if he is a good guy he will keep it in.
-yes, honestly is a good policy.

So in summary, she made the right call to leave it be, and you need to leave it alone unless she brings it up.

[Manchester90]

Thanks for your answers. To be honest I have been in other relationships but this is the first girl I have really really liked as you can imagine it's pretty hard for me to see her on a daily basis especially after what's happened, it has been a bit of head mess up. I am not just saying it because I want it to be true but I know she is faithful and I know she a bit of a socialite as well so drinks fairly regularly, I kind of feel deep down she does like me and if we met before things could have been different. But saying that we didn't meet before so yes you are right. I won't say anything and if she wants to bring it up then it's her who has done it I guess.

Would you agree the longer time goes on the longer it is less likely this other guy says anything to anyone else, it's been 3 weeks already so probably not even at the front of his mind. Fingers crossed

[steviej]

Put it this way, how would you feel about a co-worker of your girlfriend sleazing on her at work?
Don't do it. She's in a committed, long term relationship. Thinking and spending so much time outside of work with this girl is only going to stop you meeting someone else! For her its a laugh and a good ego boost, but at the end of the day she goes home to her fella and you back home alone.
Tone it down with her, you're just torturing yourself. A confession of feelings to her will just make your working relationship very, very awkward!