We are both 24-28 years old and been living together for over 3 years now and I considered myself happy with our sexlife for about the first 2 years, but then it started to slowly strike me that she wants sex less and less all the time, and we started having problems because my sexual desires have stayed exactly the same all this time and I started getting negative reactions on my attempts, which has more and more led towards frustration for both of us.
I know these problems can be reflections from other issues, but I`m unable to find any other problems between us that might cause her to lose her desires, I even started working out like crazy because I was afraid that I don`t look as good as I did earlier, but right now when I`ve never been happier about my looks it`s no use. I`m nice to her all the time, I treat her like a princess, I never try to force her into anything. She about never makes any initiatives, and turns me down continuously except for very rare instances.
We have reached the point where this is 100% everything I can think about when she`s around, I need to concentrate all the time into focusing my toughts on something else and it hurts my brains. Don`t get me wrong I`m not telling it to her 24/7, in fact I allow myself to try seducing her only once/day at the most appropriate time I see fit. I`m trying to consider everything when I make my attempt, her current mindset etc etc atmosphere but it`s just no good. There has been couple of recent occasions where I tried to create a romantic atmosphere by lighting candles in the bedroom and she got really frustrated and told me that she will tell me when she wants sex.
I have confronted her about whether she even wants to be with me anymore, but she doesn`t even have to think before she says YES and that her life would be miserable without me.. I just don`t understand. And usually when I try to talk about this whole issue with her, she just gets extremely frustrated and says stuff like "well you need to find yourself somebody else if you`re not happy" and gets very grumpy for hours, so I`m a bit afraid of bringing this up and just swallow my desires every time I get turned down.
I feel like my whole relationship-life at the moment is about me just waiting and waiting for her to warm up.
The worst part is that I`m actually starting to feel like I have no other options but to leave.. I love her very much but this is breaking me and us into pieces. I simply can`t take this any longer and had to let some steams off by posting this..