I was in a four year relationship with someone who is 14 years older than I am - I'm 45. (Now, she looks awfully good for her age -- to me she seems younger in most ways than my last GF who was my age.) The relationship was mostly effortless, we never fought and there was no drama, and we had some important things in common. Though she's not as educated as I'd like, mostly it hasn't bothered me as much as I thought, at least so far.
Even though the age difference isn't a huge issue at the moment - I'm really worried about when I'm 56 and she's 70, etc. - that seems like it's going to be really hard.
Due to worries of the age difference (and to part II, upcoming - an affair and subsequent and ongoing obsession with someone who is completely unavailable) I had her move out of my place after 4 years. But were so good when we're togther, and we keep up ending back togther because I'm too weak to really let her go - if in fact that is what I should do.
Am I selfish to be worried about the practicality of the age difference? Should I not worry about the future so much now? She's the sweetest person I've ever met, and the last thing I want is to hurt her again in the future, which I'm afraid I could do. But I really miss her in my life...
Any advice or experience appreciated