Especially on dating sites. I think I'm going to stop sending messages, since I've been received fewer replies and in a lot of cases none at all. I don't hold out much hope of being sent a message, but it's all the hope I have, that some girl will find me attractive and interesting enough to take that sort of initiation.
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03-01-12, 02:23 PM #1
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How rare are girls that message the guys first?
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03-01-12, 02:27 PM #2
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well, I've done the dating site thing before, and the girl I've been dating for about 6 months actually messaged me first. for every 30 messages I would send out I would usually get 1 sent to me by someone I wouldn't even consider dating. After a couple of months and mostly giving up on the online thing, a girl messaged me who was awesome.
So it does happen, but rarely I guess."All is fair in love and war." - Francis Edward Smedley
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03-01-12, 02:29 PM #3
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Damn! Needless to say, you're damn lucky.
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03-01-12, 04:55 PM #4
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When I did the whole internet dating thing I contacted guys all the time. One guy I contacted I dated for 11 months...
Hang in there LR. Send out positive vibes!Some people are drains and some are radiators... Keep clear of the drains and hug the radiators!
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04-01-12, 09:13 AM #5
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I was on an online dating site and out of all the guys who messaged me, I'd rarely respond. Power in numbers, if you message 10 mayyyybe 1 will respond. Unfortunately that's "online dating" and gender roles on such sites.
And only 1 single time did I message a guy, sadly I received no response.
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04-01-12, 09:46 AM #6
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Would the reason for your rarely responding being due to the content of the messages you'd receive (i.e., lame pick-up lines, sexual propositioning, etc.)?
I've honest to God visited practically dozens of websites from typing in "how to send a message to a girl" into a search engine and they just haven't worked for me.
Why stop at the one time, though?
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05-01-12, 10:24 PM #7
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I was talking to 5 girls at once on a dating website, and they all messaged me first. But I don't have time for them all so I had to choose one. I simply put on my profile, I only date girls who message me first. But I don't tell them why. It helps me find confident women with a minimum of drama and BS. If the woman doesn't have enough guts to message me first, I'm not interested.
This is 2012, not the 1950s. Women need to step up their dating techniques. And, from what I see, many have.I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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06-01-12, 03:35 AM #8
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Damn, man; you're ahead of the curve. Do they ever ask why you put that?
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06-01-12, 05:46 AM #9
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If you are really hot you are going to have girls on you first for sure.
Not so hot, you have to frickin work at it.
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06-01-12, 09:56 AM #10
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Guys who wait for women to approach them or send them messages are honestly pussies.
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06-01-12, 10:27 AM #11
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Or ugly and know it. Or hot and know it.
Originally Posted by sadie_genie
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06-01-12, 10:38 AM #12
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Nothing to do with looks. I was talking about his masculinity. Originally Posted by Love'sReject
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06-01-12, 10:44 AM #13
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Wait, you mean the guy above who's passive attitude works?
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06-01-12, 10:50 AM #14
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Hmmm...a little slow, I see. I was talking about masculinity and nothing else. Prize without honour is nothing to be proud of. Originally Posted by Love'sReject
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06-01-12, 10:51 AM #15
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Yeah, true. It sucks just as much not getting any figurative prize.
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