worried he'll cheat

[candicemarie88]

I recently got back together with my ex-boyfriend but I am worried he will cheat on me.

We initially got together in October '11 but were really good friends beforehand. After a month of being together he seemed more distant and didn't seem very bothered about doing anything with me. Every time I was with him, he was on his phone, texting and disappearing whenever he received a phone call, which made me really suspicious. He then announced that he was going on holiday with his friends just before Christmas and didn't invite me, even though he promised me him and I would go away on holiday for a few days in December, since he had time to take off work.

Once night when he was asleep, I decided to check his phone to see what was going on, because it was driving me mad. I thought maybe I was being stupid, but I came across all these texts between him and this girl, which were dated back to November. She invited him skiing in December with her and her friends and he's said he was up for it. There were 'XXXXX's after all the texts and he called her 'babe'. I was really upset after this, but decided not to tell him I'd read the texts, because I felt stupid.

The next day I told him I didn't think we should see each other at the moment because I was stressed out over uni work and he was working full-time, so we didn't get to see each other. He was just like 'yeah okay' and didn't seem upset or anything. I did mention the skiing holiday he was going on, and said I was disappointed he decided to go away with his friends than spend time with me, or not invite me, but he said it was a last minute thing and didn't even apologise.

Anyway, on new years day he text me saying he was sorry he hadn't been speaking to me much lately and felt bad about it. He said he wanted to see me and make a fresh start because he's realised how much he loves me etc. He then said he didn't want to hurt me but had to tell me that he slept with that girl when he was on holiday. He said he was really upset over it and felt so bad because of the feeling she had for me and she meant nothing to him, that I'm a much nicer person than she is and that she's just his friend.

I'm not sure what to do really, because I'm sure that he wanted to be with her, but because things didn't work out he's come back to me. I feel like I'm second best and just his backup. If he's still friends with that girl then he will still meet her and do things with her, and the thought of him doing that makes me really unhappy.

I am going through a really tough time atm and he is being a great support, but I'm worried that he will get bored of me soon or if that girls asks him back he'd go running. I do love him so much, and I want to be able to trust him, but I can't.

I guess this is a stupid question, because I'm just making myself look like a fool, but when you're in love it's hard to let go, no matter what happens. I keep mentioning him sleeping with her and he apologises, but I think he's getting fed up of it. Do you think it's unreasonable of me to ask him not to speak to or see her again? I realise I can't stop him, but I don;t think I could handle it if he did.

[Boisdevie]

Dump him. Unless you like complaining to us. If you're in love with an idiot then what do you want us to say? DUMP HIM

[bulrush]

This guy doesn't even like you. He doesn't spend enough time with you. I think you can do better.

And yes, it sounds like he has another desperate girl on the side.

[smackie9]

You made it so easy for him. You broke up him and he was off dancing down the street because he can now go bang that chick. He had his fun with her and then he quite easily pulled your strings to take him back. Yes you are being the fool. He wasn't serious about your relationship before, so what makes you think he's any different this time? He's quite a clever lad.....he has you so played. The writing is on the wall.....he's gonna hang out with you till another chick he wants to bang comes along.....the only way to stop it is to dump him.

[oldskool83]

hes ****n on u. why wouldnt ya take sum1 back that you already saw he was talking to other snatches.


peace him asap.

[bcgirl]

You need to dump him. He has a girlfriend and he has his mistress (you). His girlfriend he spends time with on christmas. You....he spends time with when him and his girlfriend are in a fight or having problems. He has the best of both worlds. What you should do is go through his phone and get the number to his girlfriend. Call her and warn him about him...remember she isn't the one in the wrong....it's HIM that is in the wrong and the one who is playing you both. As for if he is cheating on you....ofcourse he is. Although you haven't found evidence of him having sex with anyone else....you've found evidence of his phone calls and text messages and this proves that he is cheating....he most likely is having sex with his other girlfriend too.

[bcgirl]

this is how girls like you wake up one day and have herpes.